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My boyfriend and I haven't been together very long, but when we have sex he always orgasms after a couple of minutes. I don't mind because I really like him, but I just wondered if this happens to a lot of other couples, and if anyone has any advice to delay this because I think it annoys him!
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I had the same trouble in the past with my ex (everything is working damn good now tho) and frankly it is really frustrating for the man.
I have never find a solution to the trouble, my problem disappeared when my ex did. Also I was unhappy back then so it might have something to do with it.
Also I do not say it's the case here, so men come often quickly.
Maybe try to have a bit more of foreplay or maybe after a bit of penetration switch to oral sex, or just go play a bit with his balls. That way penetration stop and if you are only playing with his ball or no to strongly with his penis you will not make him come, but the sex session will last longer.
He will notice that and might help him build up his selfesteem and help him do better next time. He must be stressed everytime you have sex and it doesn't help him at all. if you manage to make the sex session last longer I think it might be good for him.
Hi there,
Yes this is common - especially for new couples when there is the added excitement that comes with a new sexual relationship
Have a look at TheSite's article on premature ejaculation and note the hyperlinks too.
I hope you continue to have a happy relationship and are able to help/reassure your boyfriend
Funny you should say that... if im stressed I find myself not enjoying it as much and end up lasting ages!
I'd rather last a couple of happy minutes than an hour and get bored :yippe:
Yeah I agree... thats why I dont get stressed often!
Although I last more than a couple of min!! :razz:
Just dont go on for too many sessions-ina-row, or else his balls turn to raisins.
Cock rings are supposed to increase ur erection time and increase ur going power but do actually work by cutting circulation off and can be dangerous. They can only be worn a max of 20 mins at a time b4 they have to be taking off and there is debate over wether they cause permanent damage. Though plenty do use them.
Also si it actaully that he gets hard anc can penertrae you but not for too long before he cums or is it he cums b4 he gets to that?
Because cumming before the act of sex I thought is what premature ejaculation is and is handled differently to a guy who just goes for a couple of mins of penetration.
Just take each session as it comes I guess. I mean one girl I was with I came pretty quick when I started having actual sex with her and the next girl I last ages and didnt even cum sometimes so it all depends really.
it gets better with time
Cock rings work, kegel exercises (tell him to clench and unclench the muscle that can stop the flow when he pees - isolating and exercising his PC muscles will make him harder, last longer and come harder.
Condoms can reduce the sensation and thus prolong his performance.
Is this about his ego or your sexual needs? If he can't satsify you by fucking tell him its alot easier if he makes foreplay coreplay - fingering and cuninlingus should be the sexual staple of your relationship. If he's just fretting over his performance get him to do the kegels and tell him there is a new pill that will soon be on the market that delays ejaculation (like anti depressants do) but with no side effects.
And try to dispell the myth that woman want stalions who can go for 10 hours at a time - I went there and all I got was complaints "I'm sore", "I'm bored" ect...
Can't wait to see if any of this works :P Cock rings sound a bit scary mind you..
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I just want to point out that when me and my boyfriend first started having sex together, he'd get really frustrated over things like that happening... but slowly and surely he's improved naturally...
If your boyfriends unsure about any other the suggestions on here, don't force him and remind him that everything gets better with practise
And that practise can be alot of fun on the way
its a problem for a lot of guys first stating out!
Yes, but your stress might not be the stress produce by the fear of coming to quickly.
try performa condoms or cock rings.
and be glad he lasts for minutes.
ive experineced seconds.
I don't know if that's true.
I would say though that practice helps, also let him orgasm before you go into penetration, best way is for you to do it. I don't really see why he should have to masterbate before he see's you, why don't you just do it for him and build it into the whole thing. Start off giving him oral, handjob whatever, after he cums then he can return the favour while he's "getting ready".
It happens a lot in younger men, or in men who are very very excited or haven't had sex for a while.
Get him to knock one out off the wrist before attempting intercourse. It takes longer second time round. If that's not as romantic, then you could knock one out for him before he gives you some serious tongue action.