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I don't think they are really.
Most people get tempted at least once in their life I reckon.
The fact he's said what's going on, instead of just going to "his mate's" a lot, says something I think.
Perhaps he doesn't, but I don't think there's anything too bad about it. The OP has said the texts are just friendly, its only when he drinks he acts the twat.
In vino veritas and all that, but still. I don't think there's any need to go off on one, just make the ground rules quite clear. I don't even think banning him from seeing her is a good idea, all it does is create the ideal situation for lying and hiding something that is much better off in the open.
Once he realises he won't get his threesome I think he'll get bored. And if he doesn't then, well, he wasn't yours to begin with.
It doesn't make him a twat though.
I don't think that issuing ultimatums or banning people from seeing people does anything except create mistrust and resentment.
Treat him like a big boy and let him make his own decision. Lay down the law, but don't ban him from seeing anyone. All it'd do is make him lie about it. There's no need to bring pointless lies into a relationship.
You can't force someone to stay with you. But you can lay down the law, and make it quite clear that you won't be around to put up with bollocks.
can you honestly say that you'd have no problem if your other half met a stranger at a party and swapped numbers with him?
ps i quoted the wrong post but cant be bothered changing it
It's happened before.
I'd have a problem if she was saying she fancied him, and wanted a threesome. But I'm not daft enough to think that banning her from seeing him would suddenly solve it.
If our lass banned me from seeing someone I was or wanted to be mates with, I'd certainly not be happy about it.
To tell the truth, I think he's just got a bit of an itch, and reckons a threesome was on. It happens. He'll get over it.
I did say ideally!
so do i unfortunately.. i had a so called "best friend" like this... needless to say, after i discovered what she was up to the friendship was over.
i think it's worse when its a supposable "friend" than a girl out of nowhere
i was like this for a while after what happened but then realised all my other friends are trustworthy and would never do something like that, it was just her.. sounds like ur friend needs to get rid those so called friends from her life!