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They're not my friends, they're people I share a house with. To be honest if they just asked if they could use my stuff I wouldn't feel half as annoyed.
If their jobs dictate they need an early start then of course I don't have an issue with that but when they know that someone else in the house is sleeping I consider it to be rude to shout up/down the stairs to each other and have the tv on loud so they can hear it whilst in the bath/shower.
Objecting to the smell of curry IS my problem and I wouldn't dream of asking them to stop! So you'd suggest that someone making the assertion that most Indians have a 'sharing' culture and the behaviour I've described is part of it is not correct?
Yup, I read the lot.
Is that your best argument, that I'm not reading what you're saying? Oh dear.
You could move, you just don't want to. Someone can always find somewhere else if its that bad.
You were whingeing about them eating nothing but Indian food. Did you forget that? In the same breath as whingeing about their lack of "commopn decency". In the same breath as whingeing that the house "stinks of fucking curry".
Sure you haven't said in as many words "I think they are antisocial for cooking spicy food, a delicacy from their country", but you may as well have done.
If you're going to be a cock at least be consistent.
Did I say I did? It sure looks like your ability to read has gone west along with your ability to post something that isn't utter bollocks.
Anyone who's said you're being a cock has been denounced as "not reading" properly. I was saying none of us have misread your drivel.
Anyways, getting back to the point. Oh sorry, you don't have one.
Yes, all Indian people treat your stuff as if it belongs to them. Yes, they're all without common decency. And yes, they all have the cheek to eat nothing but Indian food. Happy?
Subjective!
so stop being a fanny and tell them this, communication is a cross-cultural tool!
At 7 in the morning you should get up and do some work too- think of it as a free alarm call!
I'm glad we agree that you have a problem.
shut up you cock face
Dearie me, no it wouldn't.
Why should I "get up and do some work" when I don't finish work until 2am?
That was directed at kermit who seems to have made a career out of only reading what he wants to see in people's posts.
You live with some ignorant people. There is ignorance in all cultures.
Yours is talking to us but not to them, as if they are somehow "different" and the way you put your problem across makes it sound like you are borderline racist (whether you are or not).
Suggest that you talk to your flatmates, if you can't do that then suck it up or leave. It's that simple.
The fact I'm asking you guys if what my friend says is true makes me sound borderline racist?
Well it's not that simple at all is it?
I don't think anyone on here is fooled by "my friend says" tbh. At least, I was talking to my friend the other day and he said that "anyone who tries to hide their objectionable views behind someone elses words must be an utter fucking cunt".
can't you just open the windows and put your towels in your bedroom and ask them not to put things in your fridge?
The house constantly smelled of curry and oil, they never opened a window or cleaned up. I like the smell of curry but not pervading through my bedroom at all hours of the day and night. In fact are you sure these are not the same two guys?
Me and my friend tried to discuss it with them but they didn't change. I don't know much about it but I think some Indian international students come from wealthy families (so they can afford the fees), and at home they may have servants and cleaners and stuff. So they don't know how to clean up, or maybe culturally they expect women to do it. One of the guys moved his wife in without asking anybody, and she would cook and clean for all of them.
So try to discuss it, get the landlord involved if you need to, or move out. Living with other people can always lead to problems, especially if you have different beliefs about basic things such as living conditions.
Take some of your own advice and read what I actually typed and you'll fnd that isn't what I said at all.
The language you use makes you sound borderline racist, the way you put your problem across.
Why? Are you chained to the wall or something?
If this problem is too big to solve by actually talking to the people you live with then either you accept that it's just the way it is, or you leave. That isn't so difficult, is it?
Is that the Booty Skank definiton of normal? I didn't realise normal was in the OED as "to be a pathetic whingeing racist". Goes to show, I'm not as well read as I thought.
Nah, I thought I'd stay out of it, but I won't. Man of Kent, as usual, is entirely right. So obviously you say he isn't reading your childish bleatings.
You do sound familiar. You sure you're not monocrat or a resident of Chalfont?
I share with two Americans who, when together act like fourteen year old and wake me up in the morning giggling... They come in making a racket late a night too, quite literally shouting in a closed doorway. I don't know if it's part of their culture to be loud and untidy... But it wouldn't be right to suggest that (although all the Americans I've met are very outgoing) because everybody is different at the end of the day. Whilst we're socialised in to what personality traits are desirable and whilst the socialisation differs between cultures, at the end of the day we're all still human and as long as the cultures don't hurt people, what's the problem with living like that?
You should talk to your flatmates.