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My Dad has physically abused me and since i was 5 and i am to scared to do anything?
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I really dont know what to do, i have told my mum but she does not believe and my brother is also to scared to do anything. Please help me, 
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I would say call the number, see what they have to say to you. As they are specialised, they can probably give you better help than any of us here.
I would contact police right away, its alot better than taking the needless abuse.
Before anyone goes condemning your dad i think they should realise that to do what he does to you means he must have some serious problems himself (probably deep rooted that he is unaware of) but that does not excuse his actions.
Only thing i can really suggest is ring the number people have given in private and have a lengthy convo with someone there because like others have said they will be able to help a lot more in a situation like this.
Hope things turn out well in the end and both you and your dad get the help you both need. Keep us posted
have you?
My dad is 50
and my family are not that close, everytime i tell my mum she yells at me for trying to brake there relationship
My mum and dad have beat me pretty hard during my life...the best thing to do is be assertive/agressive towards him...next time he goes near your get a brick and smack him on the head with it!
But then won't he (the orginal poster) get done for ABH/GBH?
Who gives a fuck? The sick bastard needs a brick to the head!
I'm sure the OP will when he gets sent down for it. Just a thought.
I would say go to the police, but I don't think that would be the best course of action immediately. Though you do need to take steps to protect yourself.
Ringing Childline or the Samaritans would be a good step, if you need to get it off your chest, you could email the Samaritans on jo@samaritans.org if you would prefer. But the Samaritans in particular cannot advise you on what you should do next.
There is an advice line for male victims of domestic violence, you can ring them on 020 8644 9914.
ETA:What have the police ever done for you? Never done nothing for me or my community.
As people have already said, call ChildLine and they can talk to you about it. They can talk through your options and also help you if you do decide to contact social services or the police by putting you in contact with your nearest offices or even making the call for you while you are on the line if you need emergency help.
I dont know how old you are, but I know some social services offices can be scary places to phone up and it is really difficult going and speaking about your life with strange professionals. Is there any other adult in your life that you could confide in that might be able to support you in this? if you had someone you trusted who could be with you when you made a call or go with you when you went to see someone, it might make it easier.
I'm really sorry to hear about this distressing situation.
Most people have already given some valuable advice and helplines that you can call. I would strongly advise against violent retaliation however.
You might also like to have a look at TheSite's article on child abuse which clarifys that "nobody has the right to abuse you. Not even your Dad." You might also like to read this article on coming to terms with abuse Helplines are listed on the left hand side of the article.
I hope you are able to make contact with a professional who can help you very soon.
Take care
sorry to hear of your situation, maybe you could see a counsellor to discuss what to do? it is confidential so if you do not wish your family to know the counsellor will not disclose it.
good luck xxx
In that case you are better off out of there. Seriously!
Your mum has been told, she is willfully allowing the abuse to ccontinue and is therefore a part of the cycle of abuse. She is not a fit parent.
If you dad is abusing you then you need to get out and you need to get him investigated. Perhaps by doing this your mum will not be able to deny the proof. If she does then I cannot understand why you would want to maintain a relationship with someone who is enabling your abuser.
Like many other posts have said you need to do something about this, i sugest you take action As soon as possible.
I asume you still go to school, does your school have a connections Dep.
They will be able to offer you alot of help, but still do contact The child line.
You MUST Take action to stop this.
Best of luck. :cool:
Jase.
You doubt it do you?
I don't.
Violent retribution doesn't work.
Loads.
what is the point of the counselling if your hiding whats realy hurting you?
Smack him on the head and risk killing him? Worst case scenario, but it could happen. I'm pretty damn sure he'll go down for that.
Stuart, obviously it's hard, but you need to tell someone. Is there a teacher/tutor at school you can trust enough to confide in, if you don't like the idea of Childline , or your counsellor? I personally hated my counsellor, and didn't tell her anything, but my tutor was my second mum - still is now I've left school.
Please be careful, and seek help ASAP.
How old are you, I dont think I saw the answer, if you don't want to tell anyboyd, can you move out? Could that be an option? I feel sorry that your mother ignores it. Does he hit her too? That could be a common reason why she ignores the fact of him hitting you.
Like who
yea he does hit my mum. but why would she ignore the fact that he is hitting me
Same reason she ignores that he's hitting her.
Same reason why you won't admit your difficulties to your counsellor- the person who could probably help you the most.