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saftey concerns
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Right to cut a long story short. Ive been with the g/f for a while now and she wants things to go all the way. I was hoping she was going to go on the pill as this and using a condom seemed to be the safest way of doing things. Unfortunatly tho shes not prepared to do this because shes tried most types and everytime had lots of negative side effects ranging from being reduced to an emotional wreck to really bad bleeding - Basically shes now dead against using anything hormone based. So is just using a condom and being careful not to get any "substances" on say my hands etc still going to be safe??? Im scared stiff of getting her pregnant but at the moment just using condoms seems to be the only option. Coils etc are out at the moment for differing reasons. Im worried sick about somthing going wrong but shes seems to think we should just go for it what do u think?
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obviously the "extra safe" ones are going to be that bit more durable than the others, but as long as they have that kite logo on them, they should be pretty safe.
if you've never used one before, practice in advance!
There are also various barior methods, such as a sponge or diaphram and cap. No hormones.
Before she makes the decision that she's not going to use anything, she should consider all the options and the alternatives.
ahah! you've got to be kidding, I've yet to use a durex condom that didnt split.
really? I've had a pretty good experience of them, but then again, I was using the extra safe ones at the time, they're a bit thicker
Maybe you should hold off on the sex for a while. She doesn't sound worried, but if you're bothered about it then save yourself the trouble and don't risk it. After all, if she did get pregnant she'd expect you to help her deal with it, one way or another, and "I wanted you to go on the pill" probably wont go down very well later on.
she can't have tried ALL types of pill, but then again you don't want to pressure her into doing something she doesn't want to.
@ Kate yeah i am holding off at the mo shes very keen but the thought of her being pregnant makes me feel ill. Shes very keen tho so im just seeing how the land lies think ill see if she will go to drs .
This is unbelieveable.
She has tried lots of pills and they don't work for her. That is not being stubbon. That is trying very hard but nothing working.
You're right it is her body and thus her desision. Nothing to do with him.
If there were a pill for men I wouldn't take it and I wouldn't expect, or even ask, any woman to take a contraceptive pill.
Even so I, Personally, hate condoms, When it is put on it kind of means, right here we go then, we're just fucking now and that is all we're going to do till I cum.
If you're using condoms, always have a load so you can stop and do something else for a bit if it feels right.
To stop them splitting always squeeze all the air out of the teat and don't leave too much room at the end (you ain't going to cum that much and if you leave too much it will split)
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