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So Gutted

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
Hiya, Quite new here.

I have been with a girl for nearly 4 years, she has since moved to university. She has now dropped the bombshell that she doesnt want to see me anymore because she cant have a relationship over net/phone. She then has currently since dumped me over MSN Messenger.

Now dont get me wrong i love her to bits but it feels like i have been dealt the duff hand and that she should let me go down to see her to tall me face to face. she wont and she says she wants to be friends, now how on earth can we be freinds when she wont even meet me to tell me face to face. It feels like i have been done like a kipper and heartbroken. why wont she face me?? do u feel there is more to it than meets the eye. please i need peoples opinions.

Thanks

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thats a shitty thing to do. If she did it over MSN she probably feels guilty about finishing with you. I'd try and move on.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sometimes in breakups you never know the real reason of things...

    It's not easy to do, but the best thing is to try to forget and move one...

    Knowing why won't change the facts and if you stop wondering you will save yourself a lot of stress.

    If she was not even able to tell it to you face to face, I wouldn't bother much as she might not be as worth it as you thought.

    Try to look ahead and leave all of that behind, more easy to say than do I know believe me, it might take some times but it is the way to go...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    she definately has taken the cowards way out!
    theres not much you can do with people like that, except to try and move on
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I reckon that she wont tell you face to face because if she sees you she will more than likley feel as crap as you do and change her mind she is trying to be stronge and it isthe only way she can by not seeing you, Its hard but you hsve to try and get on with things. I think that she will contact you soon. but be strong and dont phone or email her.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    What a bitch! if she cant even be bothered to tell you face to face then she's not worth the hassle anyway mate!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i can understand you are so gutted. but did you not speak about your relationship prior to her moving to university? thing is a long distance relationship is by its very nature very difficult to maintain, there is alot you cannot get out of it that you would be able to if you were face to face, and sometimes the distance can be unrealistic to cope with. it does seem a bit tough that she dumped you over the net, but may be that is what felt best for her to do. now its happened the best thing you can do is nurse your hurt for a while and get on with the rest of your life.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    "Knowing why won't change the facts and if you stop wondering you will save yourself a lot of stress" I think not knowing why can make you feel more stress, and makes you wonder about the situation even more. It's surprising that you didn't discuss carrying on your relationship when she went to uni beforehand. I know a lot of people who went to uni and consequently split up with a bf/gf they had from home.
    The best thing for you to do is to get on with your life without her. Don't contact her at all, and concentrate on socialising with other friends. I wouldn't hold anything against her, even though she broke the news on MSN, because she must feel quite guilty to have done it that way in the first place, and her conscience will be punishment enough. One day she might contact you, and you might talk about things, which will probably bring anbout closure for you whihc is needed after every break-up. Good luck, moving on is very much easier said than done.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    What a bitch that is not right to dump someone over msn, i have had that done to me
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    she probably wont ever tell you the real reason. It might be harder to deal with cos you dont know, but you might just have to deal with that.
    It happens to the best of us :(
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