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So many marriages are ending in divorce these days. I mean more or less everyone either knows somone whos divorced or is divorced themselves. But why is it so popular these days? I mean in my grandparents generation people seemed to get married in their 20's then just stay together for the rest of their lives. Why is that so rare now? What has caused divorce to go up so much?
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Maybe, it is a case of so many people get caught out when they cheat now that their partners demand a divorce for that, where as once upton a time, they didnt get caught.
I dont know really...
In the olden days people stayed, but that doesnt mean they were happy.
48% of marriage broke during the first 20 years...
it's ugly really...
I think the trouble is now people have forgot what a marriage is and i think now
the laws make it so easy to leave and well to make some cash out of it.
When you get married you are suppose to commit to each other for life.
I think back then woman were more submissive and less free to do whatever they wanted to. When now they can. I don't think it is a bad thing as some women back then were unhappy, but wouldn't leave as easily as now.
Not saying it is women that create more divorce, it is just an aspect of it.
This one has figures from the UK and USAclick
and this is UK only National Statistics online.
Though I can't help but wonder if there are several marriages that could have been saved but weren't, exactly because a divorce is so much more presentable as a solution.
But we can't say our grandparents generation wasn't all happy and well either...abuse and adultery was rife then, it's just that the idea of being divorced was so taboo and maybe even pressure from the Church prevented this from happening.
I agreeee!
There is still people that stay married even if they are unhappy those day too. I was unhappily married and I would have stay for the rest of my life as I committed to it... Luckily she left :-)
Marriage is a life commitment, if you can not commit for life, just don't get married. Getting married is taking a risk that the other might change or relationship might get worste, but you do commit to be there for the worste and the better for life.
If when the worste come, people get divore, well, then people just don't have a clue what a marriage is.
Also I agree that in some case divorce is necessary.
Have you checked under your bed today, Slippy?
That's very simplistic you know. People change, circumstances change. At the moment you make the vow, you should be prepared to commit for life but after that...
Yep I know, been there...
As I said marriage is a risk...
It must be quite scary reading the Mail every day, more and more things to be afraid of.
you get what you sign up for in my opinion, and I know I wouldnt have left by my own choice even though i was miserable.
I do think its good though that people can leave though. Whats the point in a marriage where only 50% is commited?
Love is more than a feeling. its a commitment too.
Well said love :thumb:
The difficulty is how to create a system which doesn't restrict the ability of victims of abusive or lifeless or adulterous 'marriages' to escape them while simultaneously communicating the value of stable and life-long marriages. Not at all sure how to do that.
i think it's something that's more accepted nowadays. i guess people don't place as much emphasis on their vows anymore and maybe it's something to do with women being more independent and knowing that they can cope on their own.
Personally I think it's a combination of things. People are far too quick to reach for the divorce lawyer instead of working through problems. Divorce is a bit too easy. Women have a huge incentive to divorce quickly because they get a gigantic cut of the divorce settlement, get to keep the kids, get to keep the house. There's no financial incentive to stay married- indeed, we'd be better off if we divorced, and I moved in next door instead.
The removal of the link between faith and marriage has a huge role to play too.
I'd not stay in a relationship (marriage or otherwise) if it was shit. Mind you, I'd not bother getting married for fear that it would go wrong sometime.
Also I blame immigration, gypsies and people who sponge off the state.
youre so right. I also blame single mothers and paedophiles.