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Do i just leave it..?
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Ok well... I've 'met' this guy through the internet and bassically we've been talking a couple of months. At first it was just online but about a month ago we swapped numbers and have talked on the phone and online pretty much every day. We live close enough to arrange to meet if we want to and have talked about doing so. Whether he is who he says he is, is not an issue. However, recently, certain aspects of our relationship have started to worry me.
I feel like he's become too 'attached..' since we've only met online.. He constantly tells me how much he's missed me, has been thinking about be etc..
He also asks me the same kind of things all the time.. whether i've missed him, whether i'm glad he's back.. etc.. It just makes me uncomfortable as i don't really know how to respond.. i've tried tell him this but he still asks.
He's told me he really likes me, fancies me etc.. And i've tried to make clear once on msn and once on the phone that i see him as a friend but he doesn't seem to have got this either.
So today on msn.. he seemed to keep reffering to Us as a couple..
I s'pose this freaked me out slightly.. i didn't say anything for about 5 minutes and then went offline.. I came back on but 'Appeared offline' and blocked him.
Since this he has called me about 15 times. text me once just to ask where i went. and has emailed me twice.
First email...
hiya,
how come you have blocked me _____ ? what have i done? please explain, im confuddled.
love,
_______
mssge back
Second email...
PLEASE CAN I JUST HAVE AN EXPLANATION!
What i'm wondering is what i should do now.. Do i just leave him blocked and possibly email him with somekind of explanation.. or should i carry on talking to him but tell him how i feel..? If i did tell him how i feel and talked to him again i don't think he'd change...
Advice... please!
I feel like he's become too 'attached..' since we've only met online.. He constantly tells me how much he's missed me, has been thinking about be etc..
He also asks me the same kind of things all the time.. whether i've missed him, whether i'm glad he's back.. etc.. It just makes me uncomfortable as i don't really know how to respond.. i've tried tell him this but he still asks.
He's told me he really likes me, fancies me etc.. And i've tried to make clear once on msn and once on the phone that i see him as a friend but he doesn't seem to have got this either.
So today on msn.. he seemed to keep reffering to Us as a couple..
I s'pose this freaked me out slightly.. i didn't say anything for about 5 minutes and then went offline.. I came back on but 'Appeared offline' and blocked him.
Since this he has called me about 15 times. text me once just to ask where i went. and has emailed me twice.
First email...
hiya,
how come you have blocked me _____ ? what have i done? please explain, im confuddled.
love,
_______
mssge back
Second email...
PLEASE CAN I JUST HAVE AN EXPLANATION!
What i'm wondering is what i should do now.. Do i just leave him blocked and possibly email him with somekind of explanation.. or should i carry on talking to him but tell him how i feel..? If i did tell him how i feel and talked to him again i don't think he'd change...
Advice... please!
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:yes: And hopefully then he'll get the message sooner or later. He should also start getting bored after a while too.
I've had a similar thing happen, and it went a bit too far even if I knew all along I shouldn't have let it, and then it blew up in my face. I don't recommend it.
I don't think i'd put it that strongly ..
I've replied to his email..
That sounds very well. You made your point. I think you did good.
You think i should..?
The thing is even though he's said he'll stop, he may not actually stop it. If I was you then I'd see what happens when you unblock him. (Whether he says anything like 'I love you', etc)