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Boring in bed
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OK, so i've been told by my girlfriend that she finds what I do in bed a bit boring. :eek:
I've read through the "so what exactly turns you on?" thread, but wanted to get some advice so started a new one.
Any ideas on what I can try to spice things up a bit? Girls - what do you like being done to you? Guys - what do you do to your partner's that they like?
Thanks!
I've read through the "so what exactly turns you on?" thread, but wanted to get some advice so started a new one.
Any ideas on what I can try to spice things up a bit? Girls - what do you like being done to you? Guys - what do you do to your partner's that they like?
Thanks!
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Just a suggestion, but i remember those few nights were amzing!
She now gets oral regularly. I try and mix it up a bit, she doesn't always get it, i'd ay 75% of the time she does though, but I try and change it all the time, use my fingers at the same time, not always before penetration, I stop penetration and give her oral (her request!), or sometimes after.
I must admit, I didn't think I was too bad until tonight, but then who does?!
Why don't you ask her what to do? If she's going to say you're boring in bed, then its up to her to tell you how to sort it out. If she doesn't know then she should keep her gob shut.
Yeah, she has real problems with expressing herself in words, so maybe this would be a good idea.
could always play chirades or pictionary
good luck
LMAO! I actually LMAO'd out loud. Nice to have y'back.
You could always just rile her up lots and make her wait for it so shes so depserate it will be good ;-)
If she is still into you and it just needs spicing up a bit, you need to work out what youd both REALLY like to do to each other, and I mean REALLY. She shouldnt be calling you boring, but maybe its a wake up call and you need to start putting some real feeling into it.
Hmmm, funny you should say that, as I have really been quite concerned that she isn't really into me at all lately, just little things she's been doing and saying, however, up until last night our sex life hadn't really been affected.
She wasn't quite as harsh as it probably sounds here, but I do remember her saying she "was bored with what I do" and not just have a bit of forelplay and then just penetration while she lies there (this is where she said she laid there and got a bit bored).
I did feel really gutted when she told me, but I've decided to take it as a positive thing and do something about it rather then let it get to me. I know she can be a bit insensitive at times, and i'm sure she didn't mean to hurt my feelings.
The only thing that worries me is that she is quite a "man does all the work" kind of girl, and it does feel like it's all up to me to keep things exciting. She told me to just try new things with her, not to talk about it first but just do it, but she would never be willing to do anyhting like that, she always says if I want something then I have to ask for it.
I feel like I should be some sort of mind reader!
I'm seeing her tomorrow afternoon and we have the house to ourselves, to be honest i'm really quite worried about it. Which is why I came here, to see if anyone had any suggestions for what I could try. My mind just seems to have gone blank!
As usual though, i'm probably worrying about this way to much, and the fact that I know she's a bit bored with what I do now will make me think and something will just come... I hope! :rolleyes:
My answer is, if she finds what you're doing in bed "boring", is for her to tell you what wouldn't be. Though why you'd want to sleep with a woman who thinks you're dull in bed is beyond me. I suspect you're not the one with the problem.
first of all, what are you getting out of it? it sounds as though you're doing all the work whilst she just lies back and takes it.
does she ever go on top? does she give you foreplay? (oral, manual?)
shes the one that sounds boring tbh. and lazy
I generally have to ask for foreplay, oral is rare, and when I do get it i'll be lucky to get 2 minutes worth. She says her mouth aches after that, what can I say to that? Manual is slightly more frequent, but again i'll be lucky to get a few minutes before it stops.
Her on top is equally problematic, she doesn't like geing on top, I guess it doesn't feel as good for her (although I think it's GREAT! and she knows this). It's always me asking for this and when she does it won't last long because her arms/legs whatever start to ache.
What do I get out of this? - the actual penetration is good, and I do enjoy making her feel good and making her orgasm.
i think you ought to tell her all this...
you're right, i'm just so bad a confrontation though.
Your girlfriend is a lazy bint in bed.
She sounds as though she is a sack of potatoes in bed.
A finger or man member being slammed straight up her arse!!
Now I would never suggest to a guy to do that to a girl. It requires talking and taking your time an da lot of lube usually but she is there criticizing you, not helping you, you say she just lays there all the time, you give her oral but she doesn't give any to you, I mean seriously that is just asking for some come back really. And when a girl says do anything, then a lot of guys will go for the anal option, even though thats not what the girl may have been thinking.
Anyway, good luck with it. Just try different things I guess, or maybe fi she wants summat different then say "ok, you give to me for a change" and you lay there and not respond to her unless she is working on you. Or you give in and please her coz thats what considerate guys do.
I'm definately steering clear of that. Personally i'd quite like to give it a go, but I know it would be game over if I tried that.