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Ideal Amount of Sex

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
For both times when you're in a steady relationship and out how many times a week would you consider ideal for you?

in: Three times a week
Out: Once a week
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    In, twice a day
    out, 3 times a week

    When I first met my man we had sex up to three times a day every day for the first month. Now its 5 times a week, if that. Ever since I started living with him and got a real job we're just both always too tired and busy and it sucks :(

    And now I can't even get him off more than twice and thats if its at opposite ends of the day.

    I think its cuz I've gained alot of weight and don't look pretty :(

    But rant over, yes, twice a day or three times a week.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm not really sure, as I've only had one boyfriend (who I've been going out for a year) and we maily only see each other at the weekend. During which we would normally have sex about 3-5 times depending on what we are doing.

    before i meet him I was happy not to have sex, as I don't personally feel comfortable in having causal sex.

    I know that does not really answer your question but it is the most honest answer I can give.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'll be glib, and say getting all the sex you want. IT depends on how stressed I am at work, etc etc.

    At least once a week though, and that's in the worst of weeks.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    in; 2-3times a day, morning, evening and night (what i just to get when first met my ex)
    out; at least once a week (only getting it once maybe twice a month at the moment if i'm lucky :( )
    I think its cuz I've gained alot of weight and don't look pretty
    its called contentment. most people put on a little more wieght when they get together with someone they like.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    about once or twice a day ideally.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Youngbull wrote:

    its called contentment. most people put on a little more wieght when they get together with someone they like.


    25lbs?

    He says work stressed him out. His boss was a bitch. Well now his boss got fired, he got his job, more money and less stress, he even said so, and guess what, less sex still!

    On the wedding night we're just going to go to sleep, huh :p

    You said in the other one, even when you were married you had sex at least once a day. How did you manage that? I'm so jelous.

    I'd love it at least once a day. And I know hes always said, never less than 4 times a week he wants (except when I'm broken of course) even 30 years down the line. but that doesn't happen even.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    In - At least once a day usually more then once.
    Out - Once a week.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my_name wrote:
    On the wedding night we're just going to go to sleep, huh :p

    What's wrong with that? :confused:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Kermit wrote:
    What's wrong with that? :confused:

    Because if I, or him, couldn't even muster up the energy that you no longer have, on just one single night, then I know my sex life is a sad pathetic shell of what it once was.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my_name wrote:
    25lbs?

    He says work stressed him out. His boss was a bitch. Well now his boss got fired, he got his job, more money and less stress, he even said so, and guess what, less sex still!

    On the wedding night we're just going to go to sleep, huh :p

    You said in the other one, even when you were married you had sex at least once a day. How did you manage that? I'm so jelous.

    I'd love it at least once a day. And I know hes always said, never less than 4 times a week he wants (except when I'm broken of course) but that doesn't happen even.

    Yeah i put on just over a stone and half. fock know how. luckly i've lost it now.
    what can i say i'm a horny bugger thats always in the mood, so was she till she went off with someone else. wedding night um... ours we had one of those double jacuzzi baths, a large bottle of champagne (drank about about 1-2glasses each the rest well bubbles feel nice i was told), camera and a lot of fun.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Youngbull wrote:
    Yeah i put on just over a stone and half. fock know how. luckly i've lost it now.
    what can i say i'm a horny bugger thats always in the mood, so was she till she went off with someone else. wedding night um... ours we had one of those double jacuzzi baths, a large bottle of champagne (drank about about 1-2glasses each the rest well bubbles feel nice i was told), camera and a lot of fun.

    Yes, I was right, I do hate you ;) Though I think its for the better. You are now my role model. I will do him as soon as I get home. When I wake up in the morning. All the time. You are my idol and my inspiration ;) I will. If somebody out there can, I can too! :heart: Thank you.

    My ideal will be a reality!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    This is based on real life experiences ....

    Why condoms come in boxes of 3,6,12 ?

    A man walks into a drug store with his 13-year old son. They happen to walk by the condom display,and the boy asks, "What are these, Dad?" To which the man matter-of-factly replies, "Those are called condoms, son....Men use them to have safe sex."

    "Oh I see," replied the boys pensively. "Yes, I've heard of that in health class at school."

    He looks over the display and picks up a package of 3 and asks, "Why are there 3 in this package." The Dad replies, "Those are for high school boys. One for Friday, one for Saturday, and one for Sunday."

    "Cool!" says the boy. He notices a 6 pack and asks, "Then who are these for?" "Those are for college boys." the dad answers, "TWO for Friday, TWO for Saturday, and TWO for Sunday."

    "WOW!" exclaimed the boy, "then who uses THESE?" he asks, picking up a 12 pack. With a sigh, the dad replied, "Those are for married men. One for January, one for February, one for March........"
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my_name wrote:
    On the wedding night we're just going to go to sleep, huh :p

    My best friend told me on her wedding night they just fell asleep as soon as then went up to there room. As it was only when they stopped running around all day and making sure everyone was enjoying the party etc. It was only then that it hit them how drained they where both pyhsically and mentally. Apperently they morning after was great.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Good one somebloke very funny :lol: :thumb:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    In seriousness, that's what happens a lot these days. Couples have done it before, so it's nothing new, and a decent wedding is exhausting.

    There's a whole honeymoon for that sort of thing. Two hours sleep, and then crack on. Perfect.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my_name wrote:
    Yes, I was right, I do hate you ;) Though I think its for the better. You are now my role model. I will do him as soon as I get home. When I wake up in the morning. All the time. You are my idol and my inspiration ;) I will. If somebody out there can, I can too! :heart: Thank you.

    My ideal will be a reality!!!
    lol i aim to please. but please dont hate me i'm a good boy really :razz: . you think thats bad/good er.... you know. you should read some of my MSN conversations to my female manager. we think and do along the same lines. we could write some of the stuff now and make a load of money selling it to porn directors. or film it ourself. now if only i could ask/suggest that to her.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Kermit wrote:
    In seriousness, that's what happens a lot these days. Couples have done it before, so it's nothing new, and a decent wedding is exhausting.

    There's a whole honeymoon for that sort of thing. Two hours sleep, and then crack on. Perfect.

    Yeah we're had a few days to wait before the honeymoon. spent the morning of my wedding chatting with friends and family. She spent it shopping, with her best mate. was still exhausted, but i'm never "That" exhausted
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well its not up to the bride and groom to do much. At least thats what I'm acustomed to. They plan it and everything but its the brides parents duty to really take the ball setting the things up that they want, paying and especially, making sure that the day is as relaxed as it can be for the 2 getting married.

    And either way, I don't care how exausted I am, I'm getting laid when I get married :p
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Big killer for me was I'd had literally two hours sleep the night before, with nerves and everything. And then we had a ceilidh, which wasn't exactly a sedate evening.

    The best things come to those who wait. The morning was fine:p
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my_name wrote:
    And either way, I don't care how exausted I am, I'm getting laid when I get married :p
    Thats the spirit
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Same here My_name, even if it means disapearing together to our room when no one is looking once the party is in full swing.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    :yes: its then can you keep a straight face when you come back down, and someone asks where you've been. i know i couldn't.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Youngbull wrote:
    :yes: its then can you keep a straight face when you come back down, and someone asks where you've been. i know i couldn't.

    Its ok I just blame the giggles on the drink, when I try to explain where we went. I well know for giggling when drunk, by my family and my boyfriends.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lol i couldn't do that as i was sober still. only a few glasses of champagne and wine with dinner, then a few beers and 4-5 vodkas in the evening. plus i knew i'd have to help kate get out of the dress later. the thing stood up in the same shape when she stepped out of it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    To be honest I'm not sure if my boyfreind could either. He gets quiet embarressed at times.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    all depends really, generally see her for a few hours when shes down during the week, always at least twice whenever i see her though

    if we're staying together and up all night its always a few times, been up to 6 or 7 times if you include the next morning!

    being young helps ;D .. the fact we only see eachother a few times a week makes it all build up too!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Me and my bf have sex almost everyday if not every other day. We work too much to have sex twice a day. If we are both off together then we usually have sex 2 or 3 times that day :)

    Out- 1 a week
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Blimey! You guys are at it quite a bit. I see my girlfriend 3 days during the week and also the weekend, i'll be lucky if we do it 3 times in that space. I often get told off for wanting sex all the time.

    Ideally, if I lived with someone I would like to have sex about twice a day, maybe more at weekends. In my current situation, 5 or 6 times a week would be nice.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    In- Im saying once a day or more. "a laid person is a happy person"

    Out- It doesn't matter, I can get myself off :yes:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    800 times a day.
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