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a different kind of love that you have for a spouse or a firend.
i don't want people even attempting to give parental kind of love to MY children ...parental love is called such cos it comes from the parents so your ideas about mothering are as far as i'm concerned very mixed up with caring ...being responsible and being proffesional in the educating and training of other peoples children.
dedicated and commiteid and caring.
she too wants to improve the care of all the children in the world but she wouldn't dream of calling it mothering.
so what terminology ...i dunno!
those were the days :P
lukesh was better though
Fine, whatever. I've already said that I'm not going to debate that again.
it isn't the kids that cost. it's convenience. disposable nappies, formula, that £300 travel system, carseats, toys, baby gap... put the child in terry nappies and handmade clothes and breastfeed them and they are still as happy, but a lot cheaper. some people don't want to do this, and that's fair enough, but it's annoying to be told it can't be done. my grandma was an immigrant widow and raised 4 kids on her own on a waitresses wage, with no grants or benefits. it might not have been the ideal situation, but they were happy enough.
people have been having kids for hundreds and thousands of years. but it's only quite recently that they've become so expensive.
this is all beside the point, anyway, and i'm going to leave it cause i've seen how debates about parenting go...
well this kind of made me think that's what you meant.
'I believe that the future of humanity and society can be bettered for the current and future generations by the gearing of society towards motherhood'
No, that's babies. Which I suspect is where your confusion lies. Although it's actually been shown that terry nappies aren't that much cheaper once you factor in the cost and time to wash them, they're just infinitely better for the environment.
The real costs come when they can walk and talk- school uniforms on average cost £200 a set, and often need to be replaced twice a year. That's a lot of money. Then there's books, piano lessons, ballet lessons, football lessons- sure, kids can do without all of those, but which parent would say to their kid they can't do ballet or football? Nobody would raise their kids on the cheap unless they had no choice.
Anyone who thinks that parenting is not a full time job are talking out of their bottom, I reckon. And it's about time it was respected as the most important job an adult human being can ever do.
Being as that was clearly directed at me, I will say, again
of course. you see, after my grandma's kids left infancy, they disappeared/won the lottery/other thing that didn't happen.
despite what you seem to think, i have watched a lot of people raise families. and you don't need a lot of money to do it well. of course it makes it easier, and of course most people would prefer to not have to worry about their finances, but it isn't a necessity.
It's so easy to get into the "I lived in a shoebox and it did me no harm!" argument, and of course it didn't do those people any harm. But things have moved on from living in one room houses, and going off to work when you're 14, and the price has risen accordingly. If you want your kids to do well at school then the computers and the well-stocked bookshelves are necessities.
As the wife says, the cost of raising a child to 21 is over £160,000. Even if you scrimp it down to a quarter of that, it's still three or four years salary for many people. You shouldn't spend more than your budget, but the cost has risen fantastically since two generations ago. Mostly because kids don't go out to work at 14 any more, like my dad did, they go to uni and uni isn't free anymore.
Not that money makes good parents, of course.