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Why do people do this?
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Why is it that people show an interest in you, then they don't?
Not getting angry or anything but am getting a bit bored of this. I find that girls seem to get friendly with me and show an interest in me, but when I give them their number they don't call/ask for their number they don't give it
I've started to get more serious about having a girlfriend then in the past so this is an issue to me. Just wondering if it's something I'm doing wrong: maybe the whole thing of giving and asking for numbers isn't good or I fall into the trap of being 'just a friend'. Or am I simply being mucked about?
While we're talking about this, what do you think is the best way for a guy to approach a girl if she seems interested?
Not getting angry or anything but am getting a bit bored of this. I find that girls seem to get friendly with me and show an interest in me, but when I give them their number they don't call/ask for their number they don't give it
I've started to get more serious about having a girlfriend then in the past so this is an issue to me. Just wondering if it's something I'm doing wrong: maybe the whole thing of giving and asking for numbers isn't good or I fall into the trap of being 'just a friend'. Or am I simply being mucked about?
While we're talking about this, what do you think is the best way for a guy to approach a girl if she seems interested?
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What is it about moaning people at the minute? Just talk to people, they're not that scary.
This is very true, at least for me anyway.
I gave my number to a girl a few weeks ago who said she'd "definately call me", not heard a word since.
i'm not quite sure what everyone else on the thread are talking about to be honest. the way i meet guys is when im out. we have a llittle chat and swap numbers. and voila.
not every girl is going to fancy you. don't be disheartened, just keep trying. if you see a girl, check if shes looking at you and try to dance near her or stand near her at the bar. then just say 'hi you having a good night?' and see what her response is (i.e if she wants to talk to you and you are getting good signals). then take it from there.
Harsh words! But very true. However you slightly misunderstand the situation. I'm basically referring more to a work situation where there's not much time to talk to people rather than a bar situation.
Most tragic thing ever is that this girl who seems to like me starts work just when I'm leaving. Also she's Polish and only knows some English. So you can see that it's actually quite difficult to have a conversation, rather than it being a shyness problem.
Clubs tend to be a bit too shallow for my tastes. Think they are more about pulling than relationships and also it's difficult to chat in them because the music's too loud for it. I generally prefer pubs.
Agree that giving out your number isn't great, tbh I agree with what sugar_mouse has said. I've started to doubt the wohle exhanging numbers thing, it's seems better to try and meet up. Am I also right in thinking that it does make sense to get to know them as a friend? This is something where work and the internet is a bit easier than pubs/cafes/libraries, etc as you chat to the same people regularly
i have a theory about this.
i think sometimes the person realises after a while they arent interested, but then they take ur number b/c they feel obligated and just dont call.
Oh yes :thumb:.
That's the only way forward, I know I wouldn't be able to stand waiting around for a call or text...[hypothetically] I'd definitely want the ball in my court.