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So what's *socially acceptable* ?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

I kno it sounds bad but my b/f and i r quite intimate in public sometimes, not like doing n e thing in particular but always have our arms round each other n kissing...

thing is at a party or something i sometimes get the feeling every1 there is annoyed n they all start saying 'oi! get a room!'

i've already heard all the stories of ppl having sex in crowded rooms etc but i think most ppl will agree that that really isnt nice at all for the other ppl there, cos i bet they do notice - but is there an unspoken rule - i mean, how far can u go when there r other ppl there? and also, how can i say 2 him, if my friends r obviously annoyed, *not now!*



I used to be schizophrenic, but we're OK now...

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi Burn*Baby...

    the "get a room" comments are prob only jokes. I sat that to my mates all the time... normally in an american accent due to Phoebe commonly sayin it on friends! lol

    Personally i think kissing hugging, and a little groping is fine in public, but anything more should be kept private between the two people involved.

    It really depends on the people your with and if they are single or not a lot of the time. As for a "socially acceptable" level... why dont u ask your friends if it really is bothering them, and what is/isnt accptable???

    At least then youl know when to stop!! .. And of course its ok to say "not now!!"

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Imagine your parents doing it with the same audience. If you would be embaressed, then it is socially acceptable. If you would wish the earth would swallow you there and then, and you would never be able to face anyoe there again, then it aint.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Good advice Carriage. To be honest, I'm a bit old fashioned in the sense that I don't think it's all that nice to see your mate sucking the face off their boyfriend in public. Holding hands and hugging is obviously fine, it's sweet, and little kisses are OK, but when it starts getting worse, such as massive snogs and groping, well, that's minging and to be honest I can't see why ppl would want to do it in public anyway! I'd be embarrassed to do more than a little bit of kissing/hugging/holding hands in front of my mates!!!

    Choc xxx

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanx lucy maybe u r rite - i shd just ask my friends. i know the *get a room* stuff is prob a joke but it's just that they're making the joke - that shows they've noticed.

    hey Carriage thats an interesting analogy but parents r usually a horrible topic n e way - comparing to friends would prob be better but i can c what u're getting at.

    and chocaholic maybe u don't like doing n e thing in public but maybe u've never been like i have - sometimes the 2 of u just get into a world of ure own and u don't care what's going on around u...


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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I never said that I didn't do anything in public! I'm hardly innocent myself.... Ah-hem! That's a different topic. But r u not embarrassed that everyone is watching you grope ur boyf? And is he not embarrassed? I mean, I've made the mistake before and found it embarrassing. Of course you're in a world of ur own, but sometimes you embarrass other people too. It's not nice and it shows lack of respect for your mates. Ask them what they think and see what they say. I'm sure they'll all have different opinions just as we have, and sorry if you didn't like what I said in my previous post, but you asked for my opinion and I gave it!

    Choc xxx

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    *tail between my legs*

    soz choc, just saying - sometimes u don't care that much and it takes other ppl 2 point out that they r there lol!

    didnt mean2 tell u what u felt, just pointing out that sometimes u don't mind, but yeah not actually *groping* my boyfriend, just hugging and kissing.

    hope u all aren't too disgusted...


    I used to be schizophrenic, but we're OK now...
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