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Long-distance relationships
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I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 20 and the age gap doesn't bother us at all. We've been friends for a year before we started going out and there's one thing that's bothering me, the distance between us. We live 16 miles apart when he's home on breaks which isn't too bad but he's in university two and a half hours from my home. He's buying a car in the summer and I'm learning to drive to help us out and we've made a pact that together our love will pull us through this distance for a few months a year.
I'm just wondering, does anyone have opinions on this?
I'm just wondering, does anyone have opinions on this?
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'Love makes the heart grow fonder...'
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'Out of sight, out of mind..'
I think that when you're apart from someone, it can be healthy for a relationship as time alone can help you develop as you won't have someone to constantly depend on. If you think about it, before you met your boyfriend you had a whole lifeterms worth of self development which is what made your first meeting as a couple so good to start a relationship cos he wanted to know you and you wanted to know him. Once you start depending on each other so much, that fascination with the other person detoriates and the relationship would feel like a chore. That's why distance is good (I hope that all made sense). You start to appreciate everything about them and you start to gloss over their faults and I'm sure your boyfriend would think like this as well. There can be too much distance though as so much can make one forget about someone so regular phone calls/email/MSN chats and letters would do both of you the world of good including odd visits of course. If your love is so strong it would be able to withstand a bit of distance. If it can't then you know it wasn't meant to be. Throw fire into the wind and risk it, you don't want to live with regrets.
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just keep with it keep in contact with him and do the best you can.
Do you see your boyfriend more now? I am in a long distance relationship and we try to see each other as much as possilble. Last time I saw him was on november and I am going to see him for the new year. Its hard but your distance isn't as bad as what some people cope with. My boyfriend is an 11 hour bus journy away.
Its a real struggle with me because my boyfriend & me spend a lot of time together when we're at University, but in the holidays we're miles away from one another. We come as a duo, so it feels strange to be without him but it definitely means we appreciate each other more when we do spend time together!
In mine too.
In other people's experiences they do, though.
we're not that long distance anymore
I just say go for it, and work through the bad patches together, and enjoy each other's company.
Good luck and all the best!
(My LDR is still going strong)
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