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bit pissed off tonight acctually. i met this girl who is 5 years older than me (im 25 she 30 just turned)and my mum said to me that i should be with someone my own age and when ever i talk about it to anyone and my mum is around i can tell by her facial expression that she is a bit pissed about it.
i said to her do you have a problem with me being with someone older than my self and she said that she doesnt care what i do and its nothing to do with her. she aslo reckoned she was joking but i can tell she wasnt. another thing she said was its not like me and this new girl im seeing (of 2 weeks) are in a stable relationship which is fair enough but it still buged me that she has to be so pissed off.
i know its sounds like mummy still wipes my nose and ties my shoe laces but its not... just to make that clear.
i said to her do you have a problem with me being with someone older than my self and she said that she doesnt care what i do and its nothing to do with her. she aslo reckoned she was joking but i can tell she wasnt. another thing she said was its not like me and this new girl im seeing (of 2 weeks) are in a stable relationship which is fair enough but it still buged me that she has to be so pissed off.
i know its sounds like mummy still wipes my nose and ties my shoe laces but its not... just to make that clear.
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good luck xx
Yeah, I could speak to her but all I get is the same old trash 'I don't care what you do, it's your life yadda yadda yadda'.
I thought maybe that because I am the youngest of 3 that she may feel like this fully grown woman is taking me away from her?
sorry but, its your life and if the age gap doesn't matter to you then it shouldn't to her. talk to her about it. i'm sure really deep down she just wants you to be happy?!
However if your mum's attitude keeps bugging you, I say confront her. From the outside it looks like your mum is giving out mixed messages, she says she doesn't care and it's your decision but with her attitude she acts like she does care (facial expressions are a form of communication just as valid as words are). So my advice is this: point this out to her, next time you're on the subject tell her that you're not really convinced that she's OK with it cause you can tell by her expression. With this she will only have 2 choices: admit that she has a problem with it and can be the beginning of a conversation about it, or she'll deny everything but will start to change her face (and her attitude) in the future.
Hope it helps...
No? Then why give a fuck?