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how to pull an older work colleage

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    love your sig Little one. i must agree with that 100%
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yup. Way more harder.

    any tips , advice, ammo, strategies, reinforcements are welcome.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks, your is good too fringe.

    Right tips, now you are talking and smiling at each other, don't keep going into the kitchen ect... leave it for a bit and see if she come over to you or you go into the kitchen when she is not there and see if she enters after you.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah, tho shse is always busy and I never go to the kitchen. Even if she was wnating to follow me into the kitchen, she has no idea when I am there coz she sits round a corner form me, she wouldn't see me get up and go.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well then just hang on in there until the drinks on monday and start a conversation with her there...Did you have a good weekend....
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lol, yeah it was ok. Quiet. Didn't do too much. You??

    yes, wait until mionday I guess, hopefully there is some mistltoe maybe and a god chance for convo and no1 else tries to pull her.. lol Sorry.

    I wanna be on the rader as a guy she would go with but just wanna do it right you know?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know its hard, i was finding it so hard to find people that I liked due to study etc... that i ended up joining an internet dating site, it work though with in a month I had meet my boyfriend and we have been together a whole year now.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Lucky you!!

    I used to use the net to find gf and that but while it did lead to me having carnal relations finally, I was met with nutters and nothingness mostly.

    I looked a t a few of the proepr dating sites, even joined some, though to message someone or to have the full facilites you had topay a afir amount, usually over the net so I didn't bother.

    Thats what I want you know, a relationship.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah know how you feel mate. i'm using some of those sites atm. some are free some you have to pay for.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yup.
    it really sucks.

    big time.

    then you get the stigmna associetd with looking for people on the net you know.

    never easy.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sorry to switch topic a bit but I just wanna say you're doing good mate.
    I was in almost exactly the same situation a few weeks back and I'm still suffering the effects of being shot down.
    I wish you'd posted this sooner because looking back I did quite a few of the things the people here are warning you against.

    One thing I will say though is don't do what I did and take the kitchen plan too heavy - she might start gettin scared to go in there if she's always greeted by you acting the butler dishing out spoons to one and all. As you seem to have a bit of time on this mission mate, try making a few trips a day to make a hot drink so you set a kind of pattern. Maybe she'll startseeing you in there a bit more off her own bat. next time she says she's very busy offer to make her a coffee as it's about time for your one.

    (note: don't worry, that wasn't advice that I followed ;) you should be safe)

    best of luck guv and keep it up! :thumb:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well going back a few pages when i mentioned about my work colleage, heres how our xmas do worked out.

    well had our xmas meal last night (Thai meal then on to the clubs), started on form for our office. 4 (2admin girls, accounts manager and my boss) of them got a lift from the one of the girls husbands and AC manager was telling them one of the reason she dumped her bf was he wouldn't go down on her. much to the shock of the husband.
    We all then got told this story when they goto pub. I told her that i can understand her dumpping him, as i love it. Later we were all talking about porn and sex toys at the dinner table, as she was sayinn that there are a few things and toys she'd like to try from the porno i lent her (told her about the new rabbit, which she liked the sound of and asked me to send the link to her).
    Then when we go into the club the others started talking about tat's and piecings so i was singled out for having my nipple done. then the ac manager started rubbing it through my shirt, then stuck her hand up to play with it (which always turns me on). All through out the night, she kept on saying about how much she like oral, everytime my reply was i loved giving it, and a couple times added i'd help her with it.
    In the end nothing happened, apart from a lot or dirty talking and dancing. i would have loved it too but she was a little drunk so didn't want to talk advantage. Plus having 12 of 14 people from the office there kind of put a stop to it too. Plus the taxi was picking us all up at 1, which i thougth was a little early

    Hope you have as much fun on you xmas party. but with better results
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    jesus, thats one hell of an opne honest you have there. Maybe she will confess to having guys going donw on her, I can only hope as I love going down 2!!!!

    Well, see her monday, dinner and drinks so thats my big cahnce. Gotta pay it cool and hop eit works. Reckon I'll be pretty nervous though.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    you bas**rds! ;)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Walkindude wrote:
    jesus, thats one hell of an opne honest you have there. Maybe she will confess to having guys going donw on her, I can only hope as I love going down 2!!!!

    Well, see her monday, dinner and drinks so thats my big cahnce. Gotta pay it cool and hop eit works. Reckon I'll be pretty nervous though.

    lol yeah we are quite open with everything, guess its because we such a small office for the work we do. and only 14 of us there so we all know whats going on (not always a good thing). yeah hope it all works out for you mate. might be a bit strange in the office on monday for me. as she wanted me to email her the link for the new rabbit vibe which i did when i got home but she was sooo smashed i doubt she'll remember asking
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    man, thats one work place I wouldn tmind working in.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    man, thats one work place I wouldn't mind working in.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    fringe's office sounds a lot like the office I worked in in Sunderland.

    Offices are all about the people working there.

    Don;t get your hopes up too high, christmas parties are good for pulling, but not so good for having productive fishing.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Indeed. The likleyhood is neither for me I am sure.

    but bear in mind when you read this all, that I am not just "scared of the office girl" but rather wnating advice on how to a handle a situation with work colleague is also a single mother and not wanting to hurt her or myself in the process.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lol the manager at work didn't check her hotmail account till she go in this morning. been talking to her about the email and things on msn again. she doesn't remeber playing with my nipples as she was really drunk. now shes all embrassessed. told her i didn't mind as it felt quite nice. :flirt:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sweet.

    keep up the flirting and you could get lucky ;)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah, heres a small bit from our msn this morning.

    ----says:
    can't believe i upset X's boyfriend in the car. I was only talking about !!!'s lack knowledge in the bedroom!!!
    fringe says:
    yeah i know, maybe it hit to close and he's like !!! in that area. Personally i love doing it. its even better if their trimed or shaved.
    ---- says:
    well i hope most people are!

    this is all about people going down on each other. Also been talking about friday night with her playing with my nipple, i nearly said some very suggestive things only didn't as one of the other standing next to us.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    wel keep it up, play it sly, flirty comments, cheeky rude comments with winks and your in there my son!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    so mate how'd the office party go?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    the party itself went fine, it was the morning after that fucked up.

    Needless to say I will never ever even look at anyone in an office I work in again. I am not gonna be friends, I am not gona try and be friedns, I am not going to fancy anyone. If I work in an office again, I will show up, do the work, be reasonably pleasant and then finish. Nothing extra. This expierence has killed my ideas about an office and the joy of working there. I will not be myself in ana office again. I will also not care again about anyone for a good while because it doesn't do you any good and is twisted and turned to be made sinsiter. The office is full of politics and PC bullshit and whiny little nobodies who have their heads up there arse.

    I am sure kermit an dalike will come on an dlaugh at me and delight in their lives at slagging me off and knowing I have had a bad experience.

    I have gone through the events in my head enough times that I am not certain I wish to put them on here.

    I will say this whole thing has made me physically sick, depressed, upset and angry.

    I have no job there now, I have managed to get a job for a day at anothe rplace, but my future is no uncertain and I am a little less human then what I was.

    there is no words enough to describe how I am feeling.

    and if u wanna know what went wrong, in a nutshell, I got shitcanned fro being nice. I was nice and showed I was nice and a concerning person, without I may add going overbaord or being suggestive or sexual in any shape or form.

    I was nice and I now I have a slur on my character for it. The end.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well we are here for you if you ever want to talk about it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    With such a gross overreaction of what happened, you can't expect to find somebody. Im not trying to be mean, but first you pretty much obsess over sombody you don't even talk to. Then apperantly you have a bad experience and now believe its the end of the world. If you think a rejection is the end of the world than you can't handle a girl. Rejection happens to everybody. Its not worth making yourself sick over and fucking quitting your job!.
    Maybe you should consider some emotional and phsychological help. One bad experience is not the some life altering phenomanon and it is not worth what you wrote over it and frankly giving up.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I thought his post suggested that he'd got the sack?
    my_name wrote:
    Rejection happens to everybody. Its not worth making yourself sick over and fucking quitting your job!.
    Maybe you should consider some emotional and phsychological help. One bad experience is not the some life altering phenomanon and it is not worth what you wrote over it and frankly giving up.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    carrot12 wrote:
    I thought his post suggested that he'd got the sack?


    Unless he pulled some sexual harassment, he seems just too nice to get canned. From his overdramatization of it all, I assumed he simply quit.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    im sorry it all went so wrong
    and
    Little_one wrote:
    Well we are here for you if you ever want to talk about it.
    :yes:
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