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Once at university, how does your relationship with your parents change?
If you can afford it yourself, you're sorted.
I get no support whatsoever off my parents. I manage as so do many other people. You will be able to survive off the minimum loan, a overdraft and a part time job.
if I can afford it, precisely.
Of course you can afford it. They give you a loan, as long as you don't overspend and end up running off to mummy and daddy for help you'll be sorted on your own.
Thankfully, I've got some experience of keeping into budgets, so that shouldn't be a problem. Well, in theory.
I presume you're not going till nearly a year's time anyway, thats loads of time to get some money together.
If your parents aren't supportive now, they might be later when it's reality and not just theory. Then again, they might just be cunts and not support you full stop. My mom got all excited about my bro going to uni, even if you pushed her I'm not sure my mom would even know the name of the uni I go to... Parents eh?
It used to really kill me emotionally that they were like that, now I couldn't give two hoots. I smile at them, take their money (the little I can wring out of them), don't do anything they say unless it was something I was going to do anyway and... even though I am an adult- I have myself a new mommy. It's important to feel loved and supported.
A side of me doesn't want to care what they think, but I do.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but once you are over 21 and about to start Uni I thought you were considered a mature student and therefore your parents finances don't come into it?? If you are on a low income I guess you would be eligible for the full loan and your tuition fees would be waived.
At the end of the day if your parents aren't willing to support you then that is up to them, I don't really understand where they got the idea that you won't be able to get a reasonable job afterwards, but there you go. At least you will know that you have done it off your own back and it will make the whole experience feel more worthwhile etc.
i was 22 when i applied and my parents income was taken into account. it's only if you've been independent of them (estranged/orphaned/married/moved out) for x amount of time it isnt.
On this subject, they say they may help fill in those forms. If they won't co-operate though, I may not get a loan and if that happens, I can't go to uni. Taking a wrecking ball to my future, they are.
You can get unassessed loans where they don't take your parents income into consideration.
lisa simpson's saxophone wrote:
StarGalaxy, I don't think you've really explained the situation fully - we're getting dribs and drabs of information, and I can't quite figure it all out. But if you've been having problems with them for a while, maybe your mum didn't know what reaction you wanted. Have you been telling them to stop meddling etc? Maybe telling you 'ok well I'll let you get on with it' was her way of trying to give you what you want?
Why don't you just apply and see where it goes from there - you don't have to take a place even if you get one. In the meantime, gather some information about the degree you want to do, hunt around and find out about the job prospects you'll have if you do it, and then present it to them as one adult to another. If you go in looking for a fight then that's what you'll get.