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Hypothetical situation
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Guy meets lady, both 40ish in a bar, both had a few beers. All goes great guns until she finds out he's living with someone, and cools off a bit. The night ends with a long lingering kiss. Will she be prepared to see him again?
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Oh, and is he living with a woman or man, and is it just a roommate thing or a relationship thing?
Plenty more fish etc
Partner of 15+ years, never married, drifting apart, never do anything together, separate lives, more like housemates, etc etc
Thanks Kathryn, just need some advice as it's a long long time since I've been involved in anything like this, and I'd forgotten what emotional turmoil was like. It's not a fling I'm after, never have been, never will be, just one of those out of the blue things that happen, but never to me, until now. Very confused with it all.
"overlapping" relationships is never a good thing, and dont just stay with your gf because this particular girl wont work out. If youre not happy with her, finish it, unless you just want to a) be unhappy forever, or b) are waiting to find someone you can twotime her with before finally dumping her.
She sounds like a woman who is not going to let her be the blame of a breakup. She will NOT be the bit on the side and wont be second best to your partner.
So what do you do ? Well personally by what you said in your other reply id say call it a day with your partner then have that fun and excitement that you are looking for. The other option is do something with your current relationship, you had the fun previously so with a lot of work you can swing it round and be like you used to be. Talk to your partner, tell her this relationship aint going no where and see how she feels about it, it could be a simple case that you have both just got into a rut and need to start being a couple again.
Id say think hard about what you intend to do and if breaking up is what you intend to do then go for it cos you are still young enough at the moment, if you leave it till you are 60 odd then its just a waste of them years.
Of course people will get hurt if you decide to break up but you have to think about yourself, its your life and you are entitled to have fun and enjoy it while you can.
You're absoutely spot on there BeckyBoo, all apart from the "still" bit, I never seemed to have any at all when I was younger. The last couple of weeks have all been a bit of a culture shock to me. It's certainly brought a few chickens home to roost emotionally.
Im married but it is nice to get some attention, cant explain it really but it just gives you that little boost to know that you can still be found attractive by someone else.
Im totally against affairs, so if you really aren't happy then get out and have fun. Life is too short to just make do with what you have, specially if you are unhappy about your current relationship like you seem to be.
Thanks BeckyBoo, great advice, seems like we've got a lot in common.
No problem, glad to be of some assistance
Do let us know how you get on wont ya.............Aye Im a nosy sod