If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. To contact our Crisis Messenger (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.
Dont know what to do
Former Member
Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I really dont know what to do or even how to explain this but ill give it a go.
I've been wiv my bf for about 9 months now and i love him very much. The problem is im ruining our relationship as im insecure an keep thinking he will leave me. I cause arguments for no reason and worry constantly and i no this is going to lead into us breaking up which i really dont want. I jus really dont no what to do
I've been wiv my bf for about 9 months now and i love him very much. The problem is im ruining our relationship as im insecure an keep thinking he will leave me. I cause arguments for no reason and worry constantly and i no this is going to lead into us breaking up which i really dont want. I jus really dont no what to do
0
Comments
how old are you?? from what i gather from your post you sound quite young - and if that's the case then maybe its time to move on?? sometimes young relationships have these problems+its all part of a learning curve.
Can i ask, why do you think you're so worried about him leaving you?? have you been cheated on or left abruptly in the past??
Have you tred sitting down with him, when you arent angry/upset and discussing this with him??
sugar_mouse is right, sometimes if you've been hurt or abandoned in the past it can play havoc with any current or future relationship because you always feel like it will happen again.
the bets thing to do is just to be as open as you can be with each other... that in itself will help you feel a lot more secure.
1)talk to someone else; someone who knows your boyfriend quite well is usually best because they will have some idea about what the other person feels. Just talk to them, ask them to be confidential about it and pour it all out. Forums are good but sometimes you just need one-on-one advice or agony-aunting
2) think about what might reasssure you. For me it was being told by my girlfriend that she loved me more; i asked her to do that (seems strange and dependant i know but meh) but i didnt tell her what was geting to me at the time. If you dont feel you can talk to him about a big problem directly, try and fix the little things, it helped me no end.
Hope that helps, relax and other standard advice but the more you worry the less you enjoy the relationship you are in.