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accommodation in 2nd year
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hey everyone
im currently in my first year at uni and since october ive been living in the unis on campus halls of accommodation.
the thing is, everyone lately has been going on about how everyone needs to start thinking about where we're going to live next year and who we are going to share with.
the thing is, i dont know who the hell im going to go with! :no:
im currently in halls with 4 boys and one girl (who is only on a 1 year course). i get on really well with 3 of the boys but i think that i want to have more contact with girls next year so not sure about being with them! (plus one of them has already openly said that those 3 are already agreed on sharing but dont know about me - if they offer i will say yes though - but i doubt they will)
im also close friends with 3 girls on my course but im really not sure about being with them either!!
2 of them have been close friends for years so do everything together (which is fine and all) BUT they have NO social life whatsoever.. so if i live with them ill become a recluse and never go out!!!
and the other girl i think is going to arrange something with some of her hall mates
i know this a really stupid problem, and i know its ages away and all before it has to be arranged, but im getting myself REALLY down about it!
has anyone here done their first year at uni and then moved in with completely random people in their 2nd?
im just confused
im currently in my first year at uni and since october ive been living in the unis on campus halls of accommodation.
the thing is, everyone lately has been going on about how everyone needs to start thinking about where we're going to live next year and who we are going to share with.
the thing is, i dont know who the hell im going to go with! :no:
im currently in halls with 4 boys and one girl (who is only on a 1 year course). i get on really well with 3 of the boys but i think that i want to have more contact with girls next year so not sure about being with them! (plus one of them has already openly said that those 3 are already agreed on sharing but dont know about me - if they offer i will say yes though - but i doubt they will)
im also close friends with 3 girls on my course but im really not sure about being with them either!!
2 of them have been close friends for years so do everything together (which is fine and all) BUT they have NO social life whatsoever.. so if i live with them ill become a recluse and never go out!!!
and the other girl i think is going to arrange something with some of her hall mates
i know this a really stupid problem, and i know its ages away and all before it has to be arranged, but im getting myself REALLY down about it!
has anyone here done their first year at uni and then moved in with completely random people in their 2nd?
im just confused
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There's no rush to get these things sorted out now though. You will make more friends throughout the rest of the year and probably find someone who you'd like to live with. Again, you don't need to live with a big group in a typical student house. I lived with one other guy in the second year and we got on really well and we had a great house.
And you don't have to go out just with your housemates. If the girls are going to be good housemates and you have other friends to go out with, then that would be an option, no?
A few female friends have done that. It's no big deal, happens quite a lot. One of them moved in with randoms this year, a group of girls who are all friends, she hit it off with them and is rather enjoying herself.
So don't worry.
I moved in with two people I vaguely knew, both deaf girls who needed a third person, and it was alright. Don't rush, because there isn't one.
It can be ok and it cannot be. Best idea is to ask around to see if anyone knows the people better than you and ask them what they're like.
Thus time last year I was in the same position as you, I had just moved halls and I didn't know anyone that well and sort of missed the fact that people had already sorted out who they were going to be with and where they were going to live in 2nd year. It took me right up until May to find someone, randoms. Its not perfect but i got somewhere to live at least. Im much closer to other people now than i was last year anyway.
Ironically the week after i signed the contract one of my friends lost a housemate. Ah well thats life.
Next year Im going to be living with my actual mates. :thumb:
Is living in halls for your second year not a possibility if all else fails? If not, it may be worth asking the girls from your course as that may be better than living with randoms. If not, you could give living with randoms a go - just try to get to know them a bit first, make sure you ask lots of questions about how all the major decisions (bills, cleaning etc) are going to made, all the issues that can become really contentious later on.
Good luck anyway.