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Age gap and tellin your parents the truth?
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Heya i need advice! 
Ive jus turned 16 and ive been wiv my bf nearly a year now the fact is hes 25! we both feel we should tell our parents the truth but how can we like bring it up ? And wats your views on this matter? HELP!!!!!!!!!!! :eek2:
Ive jus turned 16 and ive been wiv my bf nearly a year now the fact is hes 25! we both feel we should tell our parents the truth but how can we like bring it up ? And wats your views on this matter? HELP!!!!!!!!!!! :eek2: 0
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Oh hunny, we are so excited for you. So long as he treats you nice thats all we care about. Your father/mother and I are so happy for you. Remember to practice safe sex. Here is the number for my OBGYN. Go there and get some birth control. Love you, must go play Bingo now though.
If they know him, and have met him, and like him, then why mention anything? I seriously doubt they think he's only 19 or 20, and even if they do, unless you lied to them why come clean? Just drop it into conversation next time ages comes up, don't make a huge meal out of something that doesn't matter.
Well, you need to correct the lie, but why make a song and dance of it? I don't even know why you lied in the first place, to be quite honest.
"Fink" makes you sound like a retard.
And why do you think your their parents would have such a problem? Its not like he's 40 and your 12. Your both of age I believe.
I jus really love him and he really loves me & we both love our parents we jus dont knw how to tell them ?
I jus really love him and he really loves me & we both love our parents we jus dont knw how to tell them ?
(Listen i type the way i type ok!)
Don't make a big song and dance about it, don't tell them when he's there, and all will be fine. I don't get why you lied, but hey, you did.
Text talk
There are reasons why text talk isn't the greatest way to communicate on these boards:
1. There is no word limit, so you don't need to shorten words, although the odd u and 2 are allowed
2. It may be faster for you to type, but it takes much longer to read, and the lack of punctuation also makes your posts hard to decipher. It puts people off responding.
3. Text talk makes you look stupid and illiterate, sad but true. Board users will also assume that if you can't be bothered to write properly, why should they bother to try and help you.
4. The search - if you write normally, the key words will be picked up when doing a search, helping you and others. One of the main reasons for our search not being as good as it could be is the use of text talk.
Number 3 applies to you most I would say.
And if you are honestly not matrue enough to tell you parents the truth about fucking age... well then. There really is no point to continue this relationship then is there. I can't see how you can "love" somebody when you can't even tell people the truth about them.
so plz help!!!
I'm not being nasty, I'm saying you should obey the rules and etiquette of the board if you expect us to help you. It is, after all, only basic manners.
Go to your mum and say "OMG!!! I lied to you mum!!!". Or don't.
I've said don't make a big deal of it, because it isn't one. Are you ignoring that as much as you ignore the requests about etiquette?
im about to turn 16 myself (a month today) and personally i don't think you can have much in common with a guy nearly 10 years older....in my eyes i usually worry because you have to consider what a man in his mid twenties is doing with a school girl....which is what your parents will worry about. Also if you slept together before you were 16 (and looking at your profile you were only 16 yesterday) then he was breaking the law - which i'm sure you're both aware of anyway.
if the relationship is so strong, then why have you been ashamed and lied for so long?
explain you were worried how they would react and that's why you didn't tell them to begin with. say you're sorry you lied to them, you're serious about the relationship and you hope they understand and support you.
you said your mum likes him so i don't see why it will be too much of a problem. the age gap isnt THAT much and you're over the age of consent. just apologise for lying to them and explain why you did.
Shit most people don't even get that much free reign from you Kermit!
Original poster. I can accept that 'it's just the way you type'. However, typing in text speak does make you look like a semi-literate retarded chav. Whether or not that's the case or not is neither here nor there but it does put people off reading your post as they can't understand a lot of it and thus it makes people more reluctant to help you when you can't even be bothered to type properly.
We're not having a go, we're just asking you to obey the board rules which are there to make things easier to understand with the eventual end that people might be more inclined to help you which at the end of the day, is what you want. We say jump and you've got to say how high.
You said your self they like him so they obviously think he's a nice guy what harm would it really do to tell them his real age ?
Your parents meet him on his birthday and you told them he was 19 (so they believed he was turning 20), he is really 25. Your 16 now (where 15) when you met. But you told his parents that you where 17. You have been going out for about a year.
I had a simular problem, around christmas I meet my boyfriend who 6 Years older then me. For the first couple of months I did not tell my parents about him at all or any of my family. After a couple of months I thought it was about time to tell them, but I was scared about what they would say so i told my brother first to see what kind of reaction there would be about the age gap.
I sort of hoped my brother would tell my parents, but he did not so a few days later when I hear nothing from my parents I phoned up my mum and told her. She did not really say anything about it at all, neither did my dad when i spoke to him after he got back from work (he phoned me). Neither of them had anything much to say about the fact i had a boyfriend or about the age gap.
I think it is harder for girls who are under 18 or even up to the age of 21 o tell there parents about age gaps, as they are always seen as there parents' little girl. Even though I'm now 21, my bf still jokes about me being dad's little girl.
goodluck, if they already like him don't worry, clearly he doesn't act like a 25 year old if he passes as a 20year old.
Didn't you read any of what the other people typed?! Up to that point, 4 separate people had given you advice on your situation - sensible advice at that - , some like Kermit more than once.
What's the point of asking people about your problem if you're deaf to the replies?
I agree with most that you need to tell them as soon as you can.
I'm glad you are in a good relationship.
Just wondering....how did you meet and what's the relationship like...is it affectionate and stuff?Just curious.
Cud some1 like help me, how to word how we can say it to both our parents?
You're being deliberately rude, and obtuse, and to be quite honest, I can't be arsed dealing with your rudeness or your problem.
You are rude, inconsiderate, and a moron. Good day to you.
your well rude i have been typing probly cause you lot moaning!!!1