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why is he being like this...
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i posted somthing few days back about how im very insecure and get jealous very easily but lately my boyfriend has been doing things that really dont help despite knowing how insecure i am. he goes on about how pretty other girls are which makes me feel like im not what he wants looks wise and he says things infront of me that he knows i wont like such as "im going to a party theres going 2 be some strippers" and then he went and said it a few days later again infront of me almost like he was doing it on purpose to rub it in. And i dont know whether or not he has said any thing to his friends but they were talking about a party they were going to and it was my boyfriends x's party and they were saying things like "yea your old flame she is so fit if she is shaggin her new boyfriend he is so lucky" and one of his friends even said infront of me "you should of stayed with her becasue she is really well off" it made me feel like shit and he didnt even say anything to his mate for saying it to me and being really rude he has lately beein going on about how he likes sexy outfits and thing and has been pushing for me to get one but ive told him i dont have the money at the moment and he still keeps pushing and even got anoyed at one point that i wasnt getting one it made me feel like just me wasnt good enough for him. what should i do am i over reacting or is he being out of order?
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Seems like a selfish git..
He sounds to me like it makes him feel like a bigger person if he's putting you down (maybe it boosts his self esteem when you get upset about it?). My first boyfriend used to do that occasionally and I think it was because he liked to feel he was 'in demand' from girls in order to make him feel better about himself.
Me and the bf have some issues with insecurity and we always talk about it. We would always ask eachother if there is anything we can do to help the situation and basically discuss feelings with eachother. If you haven't done so already, I would really talk to him and let him know its not on. Give him a sort of ultimatium to see if he would stop.
my ex gf did something similar but not so bad, she used to do things to annoy me on purpose so i would pick a fight, she admitted it to me. he might be trying that shit on you. talk to him, tell him to keep his fucking mouth shut about other girls. you sound like a nice girl so get him to treat you like one