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I've got a dilema
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I went to portsmouth with my friend to his family party and I was having a good time drinking beer then I met his Cousin, She's crazy about me except she is how can I say... a bit on the odd side and the ugly side, I see her as a major turn off <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"> and I see her at my best mate to many times for my own liking. She asked my mate for my address I the sick bastard will probably give her it. She's going to ask me out sooner or later and I don't want to hurt her feelings (I'm not that kind of guy), any suggestions.
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It kind of pisses me off when I hear of people not giving someone a chance because they're ugly, so sorry for any bitterness in this post. But stop being so shallow and see if she's a nice person first. Sometimes you can find the personality of a person to be more attractive than the physical appearance. You might think she'd odd, but is that not just because she looks odd or dresses different or something? Usually, it's the "odd" people who are best to be around.
Anyway, I think you should at least give her a chance and go out on a date with her ONCE and you might find that she's a really nice person <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> Or you know, be shallow and say NO.
Once again, sorry for any bitterness or anything, but being known as "odd" by society myself, I know how it feels to be a nice person who people don't give a chance because I seem to be a bit... eccentric... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
"And I'm not a slave to a God, that doesn't exsist.
And I'm not a slave to a world that doesn't give a shit."
If you decide u really can't be mature about it then make sure u get in there with the "you're one of my best mates' line. If she's not, then make sure she fucking well is because if she likes u this much then she'll wanna be mates. And if u can't even manage that, then u have severe emotional problems.
When this egotistical tosser told my best mate he wouldn't go out with her cuz she didn't have "big tits", she went home and changed into her stilettos, marched round to his pad and stomped on his balls. Call it trivial, but that's what u get 4 being shallow. Be nice, conrad.
*|* Chica *|*
Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif">
Tell her its nothing personal, but your seeing someone else/not your type etc....
best thing just say NO it may be the best thing in the long run
Are you for real?
So you really think he should go out with someone he doesnt find attractive just because she may have a "nice personality"
Like, are YOU for real???? I'm sorry, but could you BE more shallow?! Would you rather he go out with someone who is a total physco bitch??? Oh, but wait, that's okay isn't it? After all, as long as she's attractive, she can be a total bitch, can't she?
I'm not saying that all attractive people are mean and horrible bitches. But, seeing as how I've been on the bullied end of thier stick my whole life, I can say from expierience that they are all bitches.
Sorry Dave, but until you can prove yourself to be any better, right now I think you're a moron. (I'm not just going by this post, I'm also going by your "Fucking Hell" post as well.)
"And I'm not a slave to a God, that doesn't exsist.
And I'm not a slave to a world that doesn't give a shit."
Sorry, I know this is getting way off topic, but I felt I had to post a reply to this.
"You're so fucking special.
I wish I was special..."
How do you know we feel sorry for ourselves?
I don't feel sorry for myself. I guess the only way I feel sorry for myself is because I'm sorry I have to live in such a shitty world and never be accepted.
I know that you set your own standards. But when I set my own standards, people think it's damn funny that someone like me could have their own mind, so they don't care and they don't listen to me.
"You're so fucking special.
I wish I was special..." <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">
[This message has been edited by *Beetle Wings* (edited 16-10-2000).]
Hell I don't even know what to say, I've got a new girlfriend and when my mate told her she went and stormed off. Eh??
Well I don't really want to have a relation ship with her, and so if she asks (thats a big if...) I'm probably just going to say no, your not the one, I've already got a girlfriend etc. I don't have a clue on how shes going to act like, but who knows??
You really are serious arent you ?
Its quite obvious you are an ugly bitch who is jealous of fit girls.
Just because a girl is fit doesnt mean she is a "physco bitch"
You sound like a physco bitch to me
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[This message has been edited by dodgy dave (edited 17-10-2000).]
Gee thanks, you may have just added to my wonderful self-hateing problem! *appluads*
Jealous? Nope, sorry. If you knew the shit I've been through with 'fit' girls all my young life, you'd see why I hate them. It's not jealousy, it's hate they've brought upon themselves. And before anyone jumps in with anything, I don't hate ALL 'fit' girls, I hate the ones I've had to live with my whole waking life. Blame them, they're the ones who have left an impression on me and given all the other 'fit' girls out there a bad name in my mind. There are some bitchy ones and some okay(ish) ones in the world. And then there are ugly girls like me... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif">
"You're so fucking special.
I wish I was special..." <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">
[This message has been edited by *Beetle Wings* (edited 17-10-2000).]
You just had to go & do it doggy didn't you, just when you were beginning to get it right (in other posts) you had to come back and show your true colours.
Just a weak, bullying troll.
Why have you got it in for Beetle eh? Don't even bother answering, if there were an ignore list on TheSite you'd definately be on mine.
Don't come back until you have something sensible to say.
J9 <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif">
Yep, I'm ugly! Although, I am bound to say that, because I hate myself, but I am ugly.
I got a picture, but I'm scared to post it up here, 'cause I know everyone will laugh, and then pretend that I look ok just to make me feel better.
Oh, by the way, doggy dave isn't his name, it's actually dodgy dave. Sorry, just had an urge to correct it.
"You're so fucking special.
I wish I was special..."
... and he won't be posting too many more posts in the future.
Dominic
Thanks Dom, I thought he was trying, but obviously it was just a bit difficult for him to be reasonable.
By the way Beetle Wings, using doggy instead of dodgy was just my way of showing my contempt for the lad. I expect that aplies to Path too.
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J9
And we better hope he hasn't been round a PC more than five minutes I guess.
Harry is very definitely on the boat.
So what's your other pseudonym then boatman?
J9
Glad that dave has gone!
Dave is here sucking my knob right now. It seems he was just confused.
(I don't yet have the heart to tell him i'm not gay. The things I do to help people...)
Harry is very definitely on the boat.
it may seem harsh at the time but say it in a nice way and it'll be better in the long run. :-)