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Give me sympathy, please.

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
What am I doing wrong? I'm 16, I've asked out 4 girls, and everyone of them was like "You're a wonderful friend, and I don't want to ruin that." After three rejections, I realised that the common denominator was that I was good friends with all of them, and remained to be afterwards.

So when the intake of new students came in this year, I moved around, met them all, and found a couple of girls I liked. So i got a bit closer, and after about a week i asked her out. Of course, the rejection line was "But you hardly know me. I think it would be better to be friends." So I went home kicking myself.

Am I unlucky, am I doing something wrong or what? It's the first time a rejection has really hurt. Of course, the two of us are now great friends. I just have to watch myself when I say things about us being together. So a sorta happy ending to a pretty boring and sad story.

Advice and sympathy welcome.

Comments

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Just stop hunting and try letting them come to you. You would seem too desperate and the girls would question your sincerity.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yo Turtle

    This one worked for me. Pick your friends, pick your targets. Work your targets and njoy your friends. Play the numbers game and wait for the winnings.

    Sorry 2b curt, but I'm dead tired. Out tonite with a friendly target.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hiya turtle,
    dont try so hard, if u try 2 hard people may notice and brand u 'desperate'.
    when i lived elsewhere me and my mates got fed up and we named ourselves 'desperate and dateless'(it was a private joke) as we tried so hard to be more than friends with lads who were good friends in the first place. onced we stopped tryin they started q-in up(well not literally, but u get my drift)!!!
    tyhen 4 once in our lives we all had boyfs at the same time, amazing!!!.
    basically, b urself and things will happen naturally.
    good luck
    love ya helly
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't knock the freindship! I gave this advice to essex boy when he was really pissed off with not being a 'bad boy'.

    Like I said before, I knocked a lad back for being too nice, so we became friends. Got dead closer, because of that, than with any other lad and now I have an amazing boyfriend who's also my best mate! Very sappy and I'm sure not what you want to hear at this moment, but you can never have enough opposite sex pals!

    Just flirt a lot if like a girl. We love it. Just don't be cheesy. Be cool <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/cool.gif"&gt; And if she says no, I know it hurts but believe me, you're not the first bloke who's got the "let's just be friends" line. You can get some really good friends that way, and when you start you start to trust her, ask her why she said no! There is no better place to ask advice than there! Remember, if at first you don't suceed, try try and try again!

    Or is that, if at first you don't suceed, then destroy all evidence you tried? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    *|* Chica *|*

    Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif"&gt;

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