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I'm scared!
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I went to the GUM clinic and results show I have chlamydia.I'm planning to do a HIV test but I'm scared as hell.I'd probably kill my boyfriend if i do have it.
I'm scared my chlamydia won't go away. Has anybody been treated for it?
I am really scared about HIV test
Any words of comfort.
I'm scared my chlamydia won't go away. Has anybody been treated for it?
I am really scared about HIV test
Any words of comfort.
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Exactly! Use a condom!
You will be unlucky to have caught it but with all the information on HIV and STDs around these days, will only have yourself to blame. Sorry.
Not necissarly.
With the HIV, the doctor/nurse will normally ask you some questions first to assess your risk. Then they'll take blood from you and get back to you with the results. HIV seems like a huge thing, but it's no longer terminal - it's a chronic illness, which can be treated with a number of drugs suited to you. I interviewed a guy who contracted HIV in the 1980s and was told he had about 5 years (he was 19 at the time), he's now 37. So, all is not lost, BUT you haven't even got to that stage yet. You need to find out if you have it in the first place.
It can be a pretty scary time, but all you can do is use it as a learning experience. Has your partner been tested and treated too? If not, he needs to be.
Regardless of the romantic situation you're in and how many number of times you've both been tested etc, if you're going to have unprotected sex with someone, you need to ask yourself, "Can I trust you with my life?"
Sorry to go against what you're saying here, but HIV IS a terminal disease, i have grown up living with an uncle with the disease, and it has now turned into AID's (thats what eventually happens with HIV). Yes there are drugs you can take which are called combinations, but the thing about HIV/AID's is that its a very clever disease, and can change and adapt so that it becomes resistant to the drugs... so eventually they run out of combinations to give you and thats when you have to just let the disease run its course
Sorry if i've offended you by contradicting what you've said. its just this is a matter very close to my heart and i feel not enough people are fully aware of what the disease actually is.
Well in that case hun shouldnt you take more care and use protection!!!!
It wasn't her that started the bloody thread.
As for the OP, you have learned that you need trust in a relationship before you consider sleeping with someone without a condom. If your bloke hasn't been tested then you shouldn't be without a condom, no matter how long you've been together. HIV is unlikely, but not uncommon. The largest increasing risk group for HIV contraction is women (admittedly ususally older women), who simply don't use their brains and sleep with people without condoms.
Read my post properly, i dont have HIV, my uncles does. And as for using protection - he actually contracted it from infected bloody given to him by the NHS years ago for his heamophilia. But then thats another topic all together :thumb:
I know a haemophiliac who got Hep B off a transfusion, and it just makes you reassess your preconceptions of people with these diseases.
Thanks for your post.
ok, HIV/AIDS is not a nice thing to have but the way I look at it is, it's not the end of the world. You made a mistake that you paid for but everyone has to die. I'm not condoning unprotected sex but, in the end, these things happen.
Because all people get HIV from sex or drugs, yeah?
twat.
well said! i'm glad there are others aware of the cock ups made by the NHS in the past :thumb:
That was one news story that actually made me cry.
awww thats so sad!... theres actually hundreds of cases in the UK believe it or not. its just not very widely known. i've been involved with various charities and support groups ever since i can remember, i actually knew a little boy who contracted it through infected blood, he died very young, its heartbreaking :no: i still speak to his family now. its mad that such a huuuuge thing like this can go on right under our very noses and yet very few people are aware of it.
Please don't accuse me of being racist, homophobic or just promoting un safe sex because believe me I am now way doing any of that. and to be fair I know only a little about the subject my G/F is well paranoid about stds so I've read around the subject and I've had a few std checks myself purely cos it is a good responsible thing to do every couple of years. Please read the following before you flame me for the above comments
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http://www.guardian.co.uk/aids/story/0,,1566472,00.html
Always use a condom, if you don't then talk honestly and frankly about you partners previous sexual experience AND YOURS.
There did that make you feel better about the HIV test (unless you or your boyfriend have been shagging men from the African continent)
so you provided a link which gave me that quote, you sir, just shot yourself in the foot
I wasn't really argueing a point. It is a very long article with a lot of stats. For instance it also states
<i>Professor Brian Gazzard, one of Britain's most senior HIV specialists and head of HIV research at Chelsea and Westminster hospital, London, says:
"The chances of a white woman and a white man getting together on a Saturday night and infecting each other with HIV is tiny." Our own calculations reveal that that risk is approximately one in 300,000. HIV in the UK is black and it is gay. </i>
and
<i> Incredibly, there are probably only 184 white, British, heterosexual men and women who have contracted HIV in the UK through having sex with someone from the same demographic group in the last 20 years.</i>
and
<i>Last year more than 84% of those diagnosed with HIV in the UK, who had been infected in the UK, were still gay or bisexual men. Although they constitute 1% of the UK population, gay men account for 43% of those with HIV
</i>
I was very supprised when I read the article and to be honest I still don't know what I think about it. I have no idea of the politics/motives of the authors. At the end it seems to say that unless we are honest (i.e. non 'PC') about who has HIV we cannot channel funds/resources to effectivey combat it. Unfortunatley it could (I think) lure straight white people into complacency resulting in ever higher STD rates and possibly higher HIV rates in the broader population in future.
I never believe what I read. I just thought the original poster who was 'scared' may get some reassurance until their test results come through.
That sounds very homophobic and rascist, and not something I would expect from a head of HIV research.