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Bf acting out of order.
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Okay, this might seem like a bit of an immature problem for those of you a bit older.. but I'll try to explain my situation as well as I can.
Basically, being in my last year of school (yr11), my prom is going on next may. And I've been having some serious problems getting a partner - seems that all my boy 'mates' have paired off with my girl mates, and anyone else either hates me, or finds my bf (whos 17 known for fighting and is mates with a lot of hard nuts) scary. Not one guy in my year has even mentioned the prom to me. Which I'm pretty stressed about, as this is the time when everyones getting dresses and arranging things, and I don't even know if I'll go.
But last week I was chatting to a chavvy guy who I used to know, and he told me I was fit and would like to go with me. I said I'd think about it (as I don't know him very well, and I'm not sure if I'd want to go with him - hes a bit strange). Foolishly, I told my bf about the incident. First day back after half-term, he basically spins out on this fella, asking him whether he fancied me, and being really intimidating.
He's also threatening to beat up this really really nice fella in the year above just because he complimented me.
I know my bf must feel jealous and threatened by these guys, but I've told him over and over again that I don't see them in that way, and that I'm totally in love with him. But I'm really pissed off about it, as he keeps offering to set me up for the ball, but for some reason he can't stand me sorting MYSELF out.
I've tried to talk to him about it, and had a go at him for spinning out on these guys, but he just says that if I defend them, I must fancy them, and should dump him.
I love my bf with all my heart, but I've been with him for 11 months now, and I'm tired of arguing.
Any advice, peeps?
Basically, being in my last year of school (yr11), my prom is going on next may. And I've been having some serious problems getting a partner - seems that all my boy 'mates' have paired off with my girl mates, and anyone else either hates me, or finds my bf (whos 17 known for fighting and is mates with a lot of hard nuts) scary. Not one guy in my year has even mentioned the prom to me. Which I'm pretty stressed about, as this is the time when everyones getting dresses and arranging things, and I don't even know if I'll go.
But last week I was chatting to a chavvy guy who I used to know, and he told me I was fit and would like to go with me. I said I'd think about it (as I don't know him very well, and I'm not sure if I'd want to go with him - hes a bit strange). Foolishly, I told my bf about the incident. First day back after half-term, he basically spins out on this fella, asking him whether he fancied me, and being really intimidating.
He's also threatening to beat up this really really nice fella in the year above just because he complimented me.
I know my bf must feel jealous and threatened by these guys, but I've told him over and over again that I don't see them in that way, and that I'm totally in love with him. But I'm really pissed off about it, as he keeps offering to set me up for the ball, but for some reason he can't stand me sorting MYSELF out.
I've tried to talk to him about it, and had a go at him for spinning out on these guys, but he just says that if I defend them, I must fancy them, and should dump him.
I love my bf with all my heart, but I've been with him for 11 months now, and I'm tired of arguing.
Any advice, peeps?
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In which case, why do you need to take a partner if it's going to annoy your boyfriend, whom you love "with all your heart"?
There is literally not one free boy mate among my gang - I'm going to have to go with someone else.
Because I can't fit in my mates' limo, apparently - so I need someone to go with. I'd look pretty dumb arriving by myself all dressed up.
school proms are overated anyway
I can't help but think I'd regret not going. I can't resist a chance to doll myself up. Then again... I heard the theme was going to be 'Under The Sea'.
btw.. my bf was actually prom king at his :rolleyes:
But then I suppose that was the year dot.
Sorry I can't help, don't have a clue about these things.
Or better yet, maybe skip it altogether, and go somewhere with him then to an afterparty?
Or, maybe you don't really 'love him with all your heart'...
*shrug*
Edit:
Oh, as for the him beating up these other guys...just don't tell him. It's fine to tell him about your day, but sometimes, worrysome details might need to be left out, especially as miniscule as a complement.
I remember his type when I was at school.
and say to him, you don't want to be alone (though it's no big deal), its your year only, Just because you're 'going' with someone doesnt mean you're going to be glued to their side all the time.
I think you need to stand up to him abit more.
Btw, i'm not sure if we get a leaving prom, my 2 best mates have boyfriends but they're not at our school so they probably wouldn't go with anyone, and i don't have a boyfriend and all the guys think im weird so we'd all end up sat in a corner all night (we're the 'weird miserable goths' aparrantly :eek2: ), which i don't want so i probably would end up not even going :rolleyes: like you needed to know anyway lol
:yes:
I'd be really miffed if my girlfriend wanted to go to a 'prom' with another guy. I'm not immature to want to go and beat them all up, but i'd be annoyed all the same.
*and a little side note from someone who has been in your shoes a few times before.... if you are wary of bringing your bf cuz he might fight or whatever, get rid of him... it just gets worse with time, trust me