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Should I just leave it and move on?
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Hi
I met an American guy this summer when I was working in the US. We never kissed or anything but there was a definite attraction and we flirted a lot. I've been back 3 months now and I've started uni so I've got a lot of new stuff going on in my life but we've managed to stay in pretty close contact- at least once a week and for some weeks we were chatting on MSN everyday. There have been a few times where it's got bad but we seemed to be able to move past that. But in the last couple of weeks I've started finding it really painful that I can't see him. I wanted to go over to see him in December and he said he'd like to see me too but he doesn't have a job so I'd just have to wait until he figured things out. MSN has been our main contact and he came on that quite a lot but I started calling him which he said he was happy about but he never called me back even when I asked him to. I sent him an email over the weekend saying I was starting to want to give up and he came on MSN the next day saying he'd miss me if I did that, he wants to keep our friendship going but he thinks our flirting hurts me too much etc. We signed off saying we'd talk later- he didn't come on again later and although he's done that more than a few times before I just got really pissed off and sent an email which wasn't too nice. He hasn't replied or come on MSN since and I think things are pretty much over which I'm upset about but maybe is for the best. However I'm a bit worried because it's unlike him to just stay silent and I've tried calling him a couple of times and he hasn't answered the phone- he wouldn't know it was me calling. Do you think I should call again in a few days time to check he's OK or just try and move on? Is it worth giving it time and then seeing if we could still stay friends?
Thanks
I met an American guy this summer when I was working in the US. We never kissed or anything but there was a definite attraction and we flirted a lot. I've been back 3 months now and I've started uni so I've got a lot of new stuff going on in my life but we've managed to stay in pretty close contact- at least once a week and for some weeks we were chatting on MSN everyday. There have been a few times where it's got bad but we seemed to be able to move past that. But in the last couple of weeks I've started finding it really painful that I can't see him. I wanted to go over to see him in December and he said he'd like to see me too but he doesn't have a job so I'd just have to wait until he figured things out. MSN has been our main contact and he came on that quite a lot but I started calling him which he said he was happy about but he never called me back even when I asked him to. I sent him an email over the weekend saying I was starting to want to give up and he came on MSN the next day saying he'd miss me if I did that, he wants to keep our friendship going but he thinks our flirting hurts me too much etc. We signed off saying we'd talk later- he didn't come on again later and although he's done that more than a few times before I just got really pissed off and sent an email which wasn't too nice. He hasn't replied or come on MSN since and I think things are pretty much over which I'm upset about but maybe is for the best. However I'm a bit worried because it's unlike him to just stay silent and I've tried calling him a couple of times and he hasn't answered the phone- he wouldn't know it was me calling. Do you think I should call again in a few days time to check he's OK or just try and move on? Is it worth giving it time and then seeing if we could still stay friends?
Thanks
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