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Annoying flatmate
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Okay, I'm pleased with my halls and my course seems to be improving but one thing that's getting to me is one of my flatmates.
Yes, I know there's always one who you fail to see eye-to-eye with in situations like these but I feel he's stepped over the boundries. His attitude I can accept, and I can just about deal with the state of the place after one of his many infamous parties.
What I can't stand is the continual noise in the early hours of the morning, the scum he brings back who will accomodate themselves in the living area and even the hallway, the shaving foam and tomato ketchup smeered on our property after a playfight, setting off fire alarms and banging on your door aggressively until he gets a response at 3am when you have a lecture that morning and many other atrocities I'm too angry to remember.
Yes, I know halls is all part of living the famous university life but this is almost like being in Club 18-30! I've spoken to a few of the other flatmates, some condone his behaviour and will regularly participate in them but a few others agree with how I feel.
I know common sense would be to pull him aside and explain how I feel but I fear this will make me the prime target for his mischevious antics. We're still in the early stages and everything is fragile, doing this will probably make me massively unpopular.
Yes, I know there's always one who you fail to see eye-to-eye with in situations like these but I feel he's stepped over the boundries. His attitude I can accept, and I can just about deal with the state of the place after one of his many infamous parties.
What I can't stand is the continual noise in the early hours of the morning, the scum he brings back who will accomodate themselves in the living area and even the hallway, the shaving foam and tomato ketchup smeered on our property after a playfight, setting off fire alarms and banging on your door aggressively until he gets a response at 3am when you have a lecture that morning and many other atrocities I'm too angry to remember.
Yes, I know halls is all part of living the famous university life but this is almost like being in Club 18-30! I've spoken to a few of the other flatmates, some condone his behaviour and will regularly participate in them but a few others agree with how I feel.
I know common sense would be to pull him aside and explain how I feel but I fear this will make me the prime target for his mischevious antics. We're still in the early stages and everything is fragile, doing this will probably make me massively unpopular.
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Part of me thinks a bit of retaliation may be in order, but that will probably just escelate the problem.
I had several of these types. Getting dragged off one of them one night before i physically ripped his head off stopped him but nothing I could do all year except wait for 2nd Year. Second Year is much better when you can finally get some sleep.
I'm pretty happy with my flatmates tho.
Universities will also be tactful about your complaint.
You are paying a lot of money for this accomodation, and have a legal right to have peaceful enjoyment of it.
If they damage something you will have to pay for it as joint tenants on the floor/flat. If you don't report this behaviour, you will feel it in the wallet when you come to leave.
if you dont have someone you can talk to about it then maybe just talk to the person face to face!! im sure they will understand if you talk to them reasonably.
luckily for me i get on really well with my flatmates and i see them being the main people i hang round with for the next 3 years! (people on my course however i dont really get on too well with!) ..although despite this i still get the odd wakeup call at 3 in the morning sometimes! very annoing!
hehe sounds a but like myself only I be dead on about things like, it's only the 3rd week of uni for most people, I garauntee that person feels strongly about getting a degree and in time he'll wise up, but yea don't sweat or nathin like :thumb:
At our uni we got 3 people to move halls and got one expelled because they were soooo annoying!!
However if you have one or a group of people who are a major constant nuisance then you shouldnt just put up with it as it will totally fuck up your year, my advice:
Most people, even troublemakers are shit scared in their first year of getting kicked out, if you complain to residence and they recieve a ticking off they will probably remember it.
If half a dozen people are making noise every night cut your losses and move, loads of people do this and most are better off for it
Dont bitch to all the other flat mates as you will probably end up moaning to someone who doesnt agree with you and create a beef. Just be straight up with the perpetrator when they are sober and if other people have done the same they will either behave or move elsewhere.
If all else has failed go round to their room, kick the door down and threathen to smash their hi-fi (worked for me)
Campus/building security are normally fairly nice people...They soon get to know the plonkers and will take no non-sense from these types of people. Don't be put off by making a complaint...I used to be really put off thinking I would appear a whinger or that simply complaining would escalate matters, non of that is true tho!
Suprisingly it can help to actually talk to these people. Depending on your tone and maner...They will learn to respect you and hopefully be a little more polite. Heck, I even walked into some dudes room and switched off his music one night...I didn't say anything to him but he knew I meant "business" and kept it off (and down after then).