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Who gets the best deal?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I don't want to start a whole male Vs female thing here (periods Vs getting kicked in the balls <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">), I'm talking specifically about sex, orgasms in particular.
I can't help feeling that women get more pleasure than us men, don't get me wrong, I really enjoy sex but all the women I've been with seem to enjoy it a lot more than me. When my gf goes down on me, it's bloody nice, but when I go down on her she starts humping (for want of a better word) my face, to the extent that my nose is very sore!
I think that for women the build-up to orgasm is much more enjoyable, for men it's just a means to an end really, without coming it's all a bit unsatisfying, whereas in my experience, women get as much pleasure from the build-up as the orgasm itself.
Just going off on a tangent here to illustrate this point, I was having a bath with my gf and since the bath is quite small and sex wasn't an option I used my hands to stimulate her, (btw this was a very very good idea, water is a very handy lubricant for clitoral play <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> ). Well anyway, I was enjoying myself so much pleasuring her that I didn't really notice how much she was "grinding" about, but when she had come I realised that the whole carpet floor was soaked and the bath was half empty! <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

Well I've rambled enough, you get the idea, do women get more pleasure from foreplay, sex, etc than men?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    maybe its partly true, lets face it none of us will ever know for sure, but sometimes the most fun is freaking out, it gets you there quicker, well in my experience (please try and decipher this yourself cause i have people around me so i cant write in explicit detail) <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well as long as u enjoy it 2 then u shouldnt be bothered about it!! maybe ur jealous of the extra pleasure u think shes gettin, or maybe she plays up a bit 2 make u think ur doin a REALLY good job!! i dunno!!but enjoy what uve got and what u get!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yes, lasses gete more fun. Multiple orgasms, anyone? <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    But I supose its fair compensation for having to be pregnant and have babies lol.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    LMAO It's not down to jealousy Sophie, I love the fact that I can make my gf happy (and not just in sexual ways) and I don't mind that she seems to enjoy sex more than me, I'm just starting a topic for debate.
    And btw if she *is* pretending to enjoy it that much then Halle Berry should not have got that oscar for best actress <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    always wondered what it would be liek to have a multiple orgasm - very messy i suppose <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'll take one!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The build up for women probably is better... but men get the better deal in that climax is pretty much guaranteed! To guarantee it for a lady involves a man's experience, sensitivity, practise with her etc.... That build up isn't particularly great!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Gems:
    <STRONG>The build up for women probably is better... but men get the better deal in that climax is pretty much guaranteed! To guarantee it for a lady involves a man's experience, sensitivity, practise with her etc.... That build up isn't particularly great!</STRONG>
    I totally agree!!! men are basically garented to cum where as us girly dont get it all that often, unless ur bloke is skilled at it and had plenty of practice!

    Girls get the better deal of multiple orgasms but atleast u men get them on a regular basis!!!
    <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    This may be the case for some women but not me. my orgasms i get when i am fingered and being licked out r amazing, but i have never cum through sex (dont get me wrong it does feel good tho). my boyfreind cums throguh all three. so for some women yes, probably better then men. but for 70 % of the female population i would say this isnt true.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Sassy Gal:
    <STRONG> my orgasms i get when i am fingered and being licked out r amazing, but i have never cum through sex ............ my boyfreind cums throguh all three.</STRONG>


    your bf cums when you finger him?
    <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Just messing with ya!

    I see the point made my ppl above about quality Vs frequency, but I guess that depends on your relationship, personally I wouldn't ever let my gf's needs go unfulfilled just cos I'd come. If you find the right guy then you shouldn't have to feel like he's getting more from the sexual aspect of your relationship than you are.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Sassy Gal:
    <STRONG>i have never cum through sex </STRONG>

    I have once or twice but i dont all that often either mate so dont worry! <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i've never come through sex either. Yeah, multiple orgasms are good for those who get them, but blokes hae guaranteed orgasms every time they have sex!

    [ 26-03-2002: Message edited by: ariadne ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    No i dont finger my bf!! (honest, just hand jobs and blow jobs!)

    its true men do cum no matter wot. i can give my bf a crap hand job and he will still cum. he can finger me craply and i wont cum!! but i think where my relationship is concerned my bf does more work. sex is good for me but i never cum, so he breaks out in a sweat with the sex. then he has to go again my fingering me or licking me out, cos he doesnt like me to not be satisfied. i get all this pleasure and he does all the work. so i do c wot u r saying!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it's weird for me coz i've never cum from a bloke fingering me or licking me out, but i've cum loads during full sex,weird! multiples are amazing, they just keep on coming! or should that be i just keep on cumming?! <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by *SARAH*:
    <STRONG>
    men are basically garented to cum where as us girly dont get it all that often, unless ur bloke is skilled at it and had plenty of practice!
    </STRONG>
    <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i have never cum during sex. It does feel nice though, but i'd like to know how it feels during sex.

    When i'm fingered or gone down on i cum and its amazing, but for some unusual reason i have to tense my legs up to cum. weird or what!!
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