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Not that much, I just didn't want a one way relatoinship.
So to answer my question as to whether it is unreasonable for me to stop doing it to her, your answer is yes it is?
From what I can make out from this, most people are of the opinion that I should continue giving her oral even though I don't like it and she would never do it for me.
I honestly thought I wasn't being too unreasonable wanting to stop giving her oral, but as many of you think it is, i'm starting to think maybe it is wrong of me to want to stop. So, for the time being at least, I will continue to do it for her.
Thanks for your opinions everyone.
if you love her, you will want her to be pleased, regardless of if you get yours.
I wonder what this thread would be like if we were talking about something other than sex. If a girl came on here saying something along the lines of "me and my boyfriend live together, I have to buy all the shopping, cook all the meals and clean the house and he does nothing in return" then no way all you people would be saying that if you love him it should be worth it. I know this is a bit of an extreme example, but sex is pretty important in a relationship and in sex, like everything else in a relationship, there should at least be some degree of equity.
Basically, just stopping going down on her isn't going to help. This clearly bothers you (and fair enough in my opinion) so you need to have a proper discussion about it and tell her what you feel. Maybe she doesn't realise that it bothers you? If you make it clear to her it does, and she still doesn't even make the slightest bit of effort to do something for you then I find it pretty strange.
That's actaully very true. :chin:
I hate these double standards off lasses, really does my nut in.
so you're saying that you know me do you? you're saying that if i did it all for my boyfriend and he gave me nothing i wouldnt love him?! you dont know anything about me, my relationship is about love, not sex!
and dont tell me im using double standards, im not, you're the one who brought it up!
that has got nothing to do with the original question though! if it was about that then either leave or tell him he has to pitch in or you'll leave/it wont get done/watever. this is nothing to do with that!!!
he said he dont lik doing it but hes willing to do it to please her, its jsut she doesnt have the same attitude
its about compromise, he needs to seriously talk to her about it as shes taking the piss a bit
hypocracy that is, so he's expected to do something which he could live without doing, when she does the same its fine
this guy seems extremely reasonable, and seems to care a lot for her feelings its just getting to him that their sexual relationship is very one-way - he needs to talk to her, and she seems to not very willing talk about things, so shes taking the piss out of his kindness in terms of communicating with eachother
my advice is try to talk to her, so at least even if hse dont want to still you understand why she dont want to do it - and if youre unable to talk to her, withhold from the sex you hands can do wonders, remember
If she just tried, ya never know... she could actually really enjoy giving it! Especially if she can hear how much your getting off on it.
So yeah, as other people have said... you should just talk to her in a nice manner about it... she might start to consider it.
You said "if you love her, you will want her to be pleased, regardless of if you get yours.". But If she loved him, she'd want him to be pleased aswell and he's not pleased so basically your saying she doesn't love him. Which as I said before is a bullshit comment. Nothing to do with you or your boyfriend, just your comment, ok?? Wheresmyplacebo explained it a little better.
Needless to say, I never had to suck him off again. :rolleyes:
That sounds quite different. Here the girl has done it before and has said she was going to try. If in your case the guy just point blank didn't want to do it then he is hardly a selfish bastard. Unless of course girls have the right to pressure guys into doing whatever they want or they become selfish bastards.
I didn't pressurise him as such, I just saw no reason as to why I should do something when the favour was never returned.
To go more extreme if he licked your arse then you would have to lick his?
So now it seems like the problem has sorted itself out. The experience wasn't the best (both times she tried, although of course I told her she was great at it) but she tried and that's what counts. And needless to say I have gone back to giving her oral.
Thanks to everyone who gave their opinions and advice.