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slight filrting while in relationships?
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ok, what are everyones views on slight filrting whilst in a relationship? my mate has been with his g.f for 3yrs now and last nite went out with me+got drunk. he fancied 2 girls that we met via another of his friends. nothing happened, he didnt cheat at all, but he wouldnt stop telling me all night how these girls were gorgeous! and he flirted with them, nothing heavy, just chatting+dancing, but he got one of the girls numbers+now keeps texting her. Shes texting bk+seems happy bout it, as she sees him as a new mate, but i think he's reading more into - although im not sure!
is this normal? i mean, when a guys been in a relationship for so long, is this right??
thanx
is this normal? i mean, when a guys been in a relationship for so long, is this right??
thanx
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Chattings okay, I guess. It depends on how intimate the dancing was. And I think he was out of order getting the girls number... it obviously wasn't just to be mates with her.
If he is just having a flirt and a dance with a gorgeous girl then what's the big deal? I do it every now and again, and I know the wife flirts shamelessly with the good-looking waiters when she goes out for a meal with the girls. There's nothing wrong with it, it's just a laugh, and it's quite fun.
If he's wanting something more then it indicates a greater problem in his relationship, and it's something he would need to work on with his girlfriend.
Wow. You don't think that murder is a bit extreme?
Just because you're going out with someone doesn't mean that you cease to find other people attractive. It also shouldn't stop you being friends with people of the opposite sex.
Now, if he was to make a move on the girl and start kissing her and stuff then maybe that's something to bother about, but I don't think that a bit of conversation counts as flirting, really.
It would seriously piss me off and make me feel jealous.
blimey, a bit harsh me thinks.
everyone looks at people..regardless of whether you're in a relationship or not. thing is, there's a difference between looking and actually wanting.
I do think whats described though is a bit more than slight flirting.
Thats full on flirting and i think its a safe bet that most women would feel a bit threatened by that sort of behaviour.
from my experience, guys dont spend all their time texting a girl unless they fancy them and want something more.
i also think the same rule applies for her.
i know, but she says that if you're with someone that there's no need to look at any one else..!
yes but to look at someone?
If I said "when im in a relationship I dont even look at anyone else" it wouldnt mean I keep my eyes permanently closed - It would mean that I dont look at anyone else in that way. .
I just thought thats what the phrase meant. Ive heard it used by other people IRL, but obviously on here its hard to get proper meanings across when you dont have tone of voice etc to go by. Its very easy to take every little phrase completely literally, when thats not necessarily how it was intended.
looking is fine, a little flirting is fine, but swapping numbers and texting non-stop? there would be tears at bedtime.
Sorry I'm talking rubbish ignore me - say things but dont mean them to sound they way they come out
Sorry
it depends if he tells her or not... if he talks to girls behind her back its a differents story...
anyway the fact he texts her all the time is bad enough i would consider that cheating! my bf did that and i found out about it because i knew the girl anyway so i broke it off. i think its a trust issue really.
But, as for flirting, im not saying that id like it if my girlfriend was/has/does/will flirt with guys, but in the end, a bit of perspective is needed....a wink and a nudge isnt penetration so....come on, we're only human.