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Invaded her privacy....
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Well, heres the story, been with my g/f for about 2 and a bit years, broke up a few times in between, the usual thing, saw other people, came back, all happy. Anyway, I know you shouldn't be in a relationship when you don't trust someone, but it isn't that I dont trust her, I'm just a very suspicious person.
So anyway, last week, she went on holiday with 2 girls mates for a week, they fell out while on holiday so apparently she spent a fair bit of time with the boys who lived next door. Anyway, I was a bit off with her when she came back, being the slightly suspicious person that I am, (to be fair, I'm very private, get funny when she reads my phone/blah blah blah) she seemed to be spending time on msn.
As the story unfolds, I came to check my email lastnight, and found some messages on there from this guy, so I just to the worse, as you would, sent her a text message just saying "might not be an idea to leave hotmail signed in next time you use my pc." She rang and said well I can understand how you feel, but I swear nothing happened, we're just good friends and so on. Reading the messages after, it is actually pretty clear that nothing did happen, although he does seem a bit of a slime ball.
But anyway, spoke to her today and shes now very angry, upset and annoyed that I read her emails and invaded her privacy. I've read the article on here about snooping, oops, looks like I cocked that up. IMO, she's slightly over reacting and turning this round onto me being the baddy, which yeh, I guess I am. Don't really know what I want to say or hear, I'm in the wrong arn't I? I couldn't help it though, I just saw the name there and clicked, I think anyone of us would, even she.
Thanks for listening, sorry about the essay
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Okay, done with the lecture ness, hope you two work it out. A xx
He doesnt mention my phone anymore because if I repsect his privacy then he should damn well respect mine. I understand how pissed off she is, and tbh you deserve it in my opinion.
Just apologise and explain your insecurities. Although, she may not want to stick around if you keep annoying her about her privacy.
yeah, different strokes for different folks I guess.
I have no problem with my g/f looking through my phone, email etc. I have nothing to hide so why get worried about it? She doesn't even need to ask, she knows all my passwords etc. She is the same with me, and to be honest I would be a bit concerned if she did get the hump for me looking. But that's just us, some people get really funny about this sort of thing, although in my experience it's because they are usually hiding something. :rolleyes:
I agree, I really dont see what the problem is, when you are that close with someone, I mean my boyfriend knows everyone that is in my phone and vise versa, i pick his phone up and he picks mine up, i dont get why people get so angry, its not like its your diary!
On another note sometimes texts can be misinterpretated especially from the opposite sex, but again i have no problem with my boyfriend having girls as mates but when it comes down to it i am his girlfriend and am therefore his best 'girl' friend and he shouldn't really have that kind of relationship with another girl and i shouldnt with another guy and therefore shouldnt be getting texts or calls that make you think hummm........ but that again is just me and my opinion!
If you feel the need to snoop, then maybe you need to think about that a bit more, and why you did it. Why do you feel suspicious,m or was it just a bit of harmless nosiness?
Either way its not good. Its not the crime of the century though, as long as its not over the top checking up on her every move.
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everything? everything isn't good, maybe somethings. dont you get over paranoid by doing that?