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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I'm getting quite pissed off at university as the town is ridiculous. If you look 'below 21' you won't get served (the guy in my flats looks a lot older and he gets asked for ID)... I can't even buy a beer anywhere but the union bar and to go to union nights in other clubs I need a passport or drivers license.

But I'm 200 miles from home and the only people I know for a counter signature for a passport are the doctor and my friend's Mum. So whilst everybody else is out socialising and making friends I simply can't...

Which is why I'm considering quitting already. By the time I get a passport I might as well not bother because everybody else will have their groups of friends. I'm already starting to feel lonely as I don't have a clique and I don't feel like one of my flatmates likes me (for some reason)...

Gonna give it two weeks then quit.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Are you saying you don't have your passport with you? If it's still at your family home then you can get your mum to send a colour photocopy of it? (that works in Belfast anyway).

    And why should you be over 21 to get served? This isn't America :confused:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Are you saying you don't have your passport with you? If it's still at your family home then you can get your mum to send a colour photocopy of it? (that works in Belfast anyway).

    And why should you be over 21 to get served? This isn't America :confused:
    No I'm saying I don't have a passport or driving license full stop (I mean it costs money which I didn't have a while ago) and getting a counter signature is hell... I'll manage somehow. And it's if you apparently look under 21 you have to be ID'd.
  • JsTJsT Posts: 18,268 Skive's The Limit
    Huddersfield are fairly relaxed on drinking, probably because students bring so much cash into the area.

    Can understand what you mean with friends etc. I havent got accomodation yet so arent meeting many people, and it'll be too late by the time I get somewhere to stay.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Im staying at home this year so I'm not meeting many new people either.. so I sympathise with your friends agro, though two different situations :(
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't quit.

    I didn't get what i would consider proper friends until term 2!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's just pissing me off as I'm a very friendly person, but also shy. So basically I'm destined for a month sitting in my flat alone lol

    Still, at least I'll get work done.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Surely the union has nights on every night though that you could head down to and get served?

    But don't quit you're there to make a future for yourself, not just for the drinking and socialising.

    The age old saying is that the 1st term you make loads of friends and then you spend the 2nd term trying to get rid of them. Honestly you might feel you're missing out but your best friends do come later on in the year. People you meet now will just be associates in a few months time.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's just pissing me off as I'm a very friendly person, but also shy. So basically I'm destined for a month sitting in my flat alone lol

    Still, at least I'll get work done.

    Don't quit for god's sake. Its always hard in the first couple of weeks, you just have to give it time!!!! As for being shy, people worth knowing will take the time to get to know you. Its well worth the hassle of getting a passport to sort id out, or get a prove it card??? you can get the forms from your union and get a tutor to counter sign it. Don't wuss out yet, uni is a growing up experience, you just have to try!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Theres 2 things you can do,

    First is that you could get a portman card, Those are accepted everywhere,
    I'd reccomend one of those over a Citizen card as Citizen cards are easily faked and those not being accepted at so many places (very easy to get hold of via the internet)

    or the 2nd is that you must have a doctor in your uni town?
    They'll countersign for you, for £10 or something.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The counter signature has to be from somebody who's known you for 2 years at least... But finally I've found somebody and sent them the form and photographs. It will be sent back on Monday and then I'm taking it to the post office and sending it off... Around 3 weeks then (and at least I'll have it for when my mate comes to visit).

    I felt really down last night, a fair few things to sort out. Fortunately on the walk home I met two other students, one of which who knew somebody in my position and we found a bar that let us in. Ok it's noisy... But it'll do eh?

    It's just me panicking that's all.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's just pissing me off as I'm a very friendly person, but also shy. So basically I'm destined for a month sitting in my flat alone lol

    Still, at least I'll get work done.
    Don't be daft woman. Like Renzo says, almost nobody makes their long term uni mates during fresher's week. They'll come later. Don't quit.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Are you sure it's just this that is getting you down. I really don't want to sound like I'm being mean but drinking alcohol isn't the be all and end all. You could go out with people and drink soft drinks if you can't get served. Nobody worth bothering about is going to think any less of you. Perhaps there are other underlying issues that are making you unhappy?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    BumbleBee wrote:
    Are you sure it's just this that is getting you down. I really don't want to sound like I'm being mean but drinking alcohol isn't the be all and end all. You could go out with people and drink soft drinks if you can't get served. Nobody worth bothering about is going to think any less of you. Perhaps there are other underlying issues that are making you unhappy?

    To be fair though, in a lot of places around here they won't even let you through the door unless you have ID and that even includes weatherspoons pubs!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah don't just quit because of this. You WILL make friends eventually. So what if people already have a group of mates, whats to say you can't join them?

    Don't be so negative. As you said, at least you get work done this month! You can give your lecturers a good impression eh?
  • Indrid ColdIndrid Cold Posts: 16,688 Skive's The Limit
    Renzo wrote:
    Don't quit.

    I didn't get what i would consider proper friends until term 2!
    :yes:

    I think I know how you feel... Just hang in there. In my case, there were only a few uninteresting people to talk to for the first year or so and now I'm out almost every weekend -and not always with the same people. I'm not saying it will take a year, but it can take a while.

    One word of advice: Don't stick to the same people and hope you'll get to know them better. Talk to many of them until you think you've found where you fit in. Good luck :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    JsT wrote:
    Huddersfield are fairly relaxed on drinking, probably because students bring so much cash into the area.

    Can understand what you mean with friends etc. I havent got accomodation yet so arent meeting many people, and it'll be too late by the time I get somewhere to stay.
    im at huddersfield,

    can u not move into storthes? from what i understand there are loads of places left there, if not5 have you been to the uni and got a list off the accomodation office (its in csb somewere) , they have lists of private rents approved by the uni

    failing that if you walk round and look on the different department notice boards there will be "looking for 1 more person to share a house" type notices or there usually is anyway.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Aw don't leave...take a wee while to settle, things will get better...you don't want to go back to Wales, do ya?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    BumbleBee wrote:
    Are you sure it's just this that is getting you down. I really don't want to sound like I'm being mean but drinking alcohol isn't the be all and end all. You could go out with people and drink soft drinks if you can't get served. Nobody worth bothering about is going to think any less of you. Perhaps there are other underlying issues that are making you unhappy?
    Well here you can't even get in to Wetherspoons and a fair few places are 21 plus too. Basically they ID everyone, according to my brother it's happening in Manchester too.

    Basically if you can't afford a passport because you're on low income, you're not entitled to the same things people on higher income are entitled to... Like a night on the town. -shrug-

    And no Turlough, there's no way in hell I'm missing Wales lol
  • JsTJsT Posts: 18,268 Skive's The Limit
    Mel-H wrote:
    im at huddersfield,

    can u not move into storthes? from what i understand there are loads of places left there, if not5 have you been to the uni and got a list off the accomodation office (its in csb somewere) , they have lists of private rents approved by the uni

    failing that if you walk round and look on the different department notice boards there will be "looking for 1 more person to share a house" type notices or there usually is anyway.
    I'm in Storthes now :p
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