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But Ballerina didn't - did she? She froze on more than one occasion with this fella and she didn't 'get into the swing of things' at all. She even moved away from him and said she had a sore back...
...and in doing so gave a clear signal she wasn't interested. Problem solved.
He is being inappropriate, but his behaviour in that context is excusable.
His behaviour about the undies is just typical teenage boy syndrome. He's being a moron, he's being inexcusable, but teenage boys don't think about these things.
Same with the present, really. He's being grossly inappropriate, but the only way to stop is is to tell him straight that you do not appreciate his attention, do not want any sexy gifts, and will return any sexy gifts he sends- addressed to his mother.
None of this is Ballerina's fault. Not saying no doesn't equal a yes. But males will push their luck, and if you don't stop them then will keep pushing till they find a limit.
My friend was technically raped the other day by a boy she knew, just because he was walking her home, she was pretty drunk, he tried it on knowing shes been at it with some of his mates, and because she didn't object, he penetrated her for a couple of seconds in this park. What makes it worse is that he was going out with her sister at the time, but she didn't know. Still, she says she might as well forget about it now.
Tricky. It tends to only apply to drugging cases.
It hardly sounds like rape. What did she say/do when he whipped his dick out?
It was forced though, just because someone doesn't say no doesn't mean that its a yes.
The boy pushing it too far is understandable, but lets not pretend he was some innocent naive boy. He knew what he was doing.
I'm not sure what she said when he 'did it'. I think she had said she didn't want to, if rather feebly, but then the next minute he had pulled her trousers down and stuck it in.
I don't really know all the details, but neither does she, it seems.