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How not to cause a shock and........

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
O.k recently got myself into a bit of bother when attempting to finger this girl. As in i think she was quite shcoked- girls, do you prefer
1) if a guy just tries his luck, by slipping his hand up ur skirt or whatever
2) he asks ur permissions first
3) or you (the girl) to move hnad down there to acknowledge that your allwoing him to finger u.

thanks inadvance for saving my future embarassment

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think i'd prefer him to ask permission. Well not actually come out and ask, but sort of start moving his hand in that direction and then say "is that ok?" or give a look that blatantly means "is that ok?". And personally i'd probably put a hand down there too to sort of direct him (well i mean if it seemed that he didnt know what he was doing i'd do that..)

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lol, i just got this image in my head of just casually talkin 2 some1 and they suddenly stick their hand down ur pants n start fingering u!!!! *pissin herself*

    i dont really mind ne of them as long as u r in the mood when they do it
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lmao@ jo :P very very funny <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    and wb <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i prefer to move the blokes hand down but as ive bin with my bf 4 overa yr now he nos wot i want and wen i want it

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by lil_jo:
    lol, i just got this image in my head of just casually talkin 2 some1 and they suddenly stick their hand down ur pants n start fingering u!!!! *pissin herself*

    i dont really mind ne of them as long as u r in the mood when they do it

    I wouldn't laugh coz someone tried it to me.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    jeez kat, that's scary <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think that a girl gives out signs if she wants you to go further myself. For instance if im with a guy and his kissin and casually touching and stuff i kind of gesture it.. body motions etc..

    *worries that no one will have a clue what she chattin on about*

    It made sence in my head im sorry! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lol lucy I get what your saying and I agree with you. Asking straight out would be weird, looking at her b4 making sure she doesn't have a look dread or shock on her face anything like that. If you totally can't tell just as is this ok but only ask once or twice can get annoying after a while.
    *ok now worried I'm not making sense oh well get used to it <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt; *

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by opera bitch:
    jeez kat, that's scary <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;

    yeah but it became quite humourous when my male friend just smacked him right in the face!!!

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lol@kat!!

    I think that you should ask before the first time you finger her but after that it should be ok just to do what freya said- move your hand in that general direction and just check she's ok with it.

    dont think it should be too much of a problem after the 1st time.

    S&S
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Call me old fashioned...
    (well call me what you want, I can take it)...
    but I ask a girl's permission the first time I kiss her, let alone anything further.
    My male friends call me unromantic but I havn't had any complaints from the females, this way no ugly mistakes get made.
    Also, if you can talk about physical intimacy it can make it more enjoyable, when I am kissing my g/f we talk and laugh about it (we were friends for a couple of years before we started going out).
    Which is cool.
    Dammit, sorry if that was really long and boring.

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    No you just gotta wait,
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Turtle:
    lmao@ jo :P very very funny <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    and wb <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;


    would b quite ammusing tho! i mean they would have 2 b pretty damn thick not 2 pick up the right signals u would like them 2 finger u <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    if you are just jumping for that spot, it is a little weird. You should be teasing her for a while and gradually moveing towards that area. That way without words you she can say when she starts feeling uncomfortable. But you should also be able to talk about it, it makes everything more open
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