If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. To contact our Crisis Messenger (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.
Options
Just broken up with my GF and feel awful
Former Member
Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hi all,
Im new here but just needed an outlet to vent everything.
I have broken up with my girlfriend of 5 years. We broke up about 5 weeks ago now.
I am lost. I don't know what to do with myself. I don't feel that i can turn to my friends as i don't have any really good friends. I have my mum but she is out in Chile and its hard to talk to them out there.
There is a black hole inside of me. I have lost my team mate. The person i normally turn to is not there. I am so unbelivelby unhappy at the moment and i don't know what to do. I want things back the way they were.
My girlfriend has just finished uni and was moving near to me so we could finally be near each other. She has fallen for this other guy. I haven't spoken to her for weeks now.
Im writing this at 2 am in the mornig cos i can't sleep. I hate my life. I don't want to feel like this any more.
I need help and i don't know who to turn to. This is so unlike me. I am normally a very outgoing confident person. I have a good job in the city. I work hard and to everybody out there i look normal. Is there anybody out there who is going through the same thing and wants to talk about it? I need your help, let me see if i can help you.
Im new here but just needed an outlet to vent everything.
I have broken up with my girlfriend of 5 years. We broke up about 5 weeks ago now.
I am lost. I don't know what to do with myself. I don't feel that i can turn to my friends as i don't have any really good friends. I have my mum but she is out in Chile and its hard to talk to them out there.
There is a black hole inside of me. I have lost my team mate. The person i normally turn to is not there. I am so unbelivelby unhappy at the moment and i don't know what to do. I want things back the way they were.
My girlfriend has just finished uni and was moving near to me so we could finally be near each other. She has fallen for this other guy. I haven't spoken to her for weeks now.
Im writing this at 2 am in the mornig cos i can't sleep. I hate my life. I don't want to feel like this any more.
I need help and i don't know who to turn to. This is so unlike me. I am normally a very outgoing confident person. I have a good job in the city. I work hard and to everybody out there i look normal. Is there anybody out there who is going through the same thing and wants to talk about it? I need your help, let me see if i can help you.
0
Comments
Couldnt have said it better myself
Even in your darkest moments life can throw you the prettiest of things.Dont forget that
I went through similar earlier this year, when my gf, who is also expecting my baby (over due by 8 days now!), told me she didn't want me in her life, and that she didn't really have a reason, it was just the way she felt. I had got involved with her following the break up of my marriage a few months earlier (too soon - that is my point).
From my experience, you need to take some time to look after the person who is no 1 in your life - you! Chill out, go out with your friends, make new ones, start new hobbies/pastimes, or travel, but just have some time to yourself, and enjoy it. I know it hurts now, but I got involved with someone else straight away, and believe me, it is the worst thing you can do. Sitting there worrying about it will only make you feel worse, just try and keep busy!
If you really need someone to talk to, the Samaritans are very useful - 08457 909090(you can e-mail them if you like: jo@samaritans.org). You'll also find everyone on here really supportive, and don't forget your friends - get out there with them and take your mind off it.
Getting over this will take a long time (mine happened in Feb, and I'm only just getting back near to being myself), but the sooner you set the wheels in motion, the sooner you'll get there!
Hope you feel better soon. Keep battling!
Take care of yourself
I just wanted to say its ok to feel sad at first it really is so dont' feel like your failing or something - just keep yourself buzy and try and think positively about life.
Oh and have a hug
What I will say though is to talk to someone, anyone, just like you are doing now. You will be suprised how friends or even the most random people can give you support and advice that you can actually use.
Chin up. Keep smiling. Stay in touch.
Everyone says it will get better in time, but thats no good now is it? The honest truth is you are at the start of a dark chapter of your life which will be incredibly hard. Most of the time ur prob be thinking about her and what she is doing. Also u will go through thinking about things you really dont want to think about, you will find ways to convince yourself that it is not happening and u have no evedince. As u find out each bit step by step and find each one comes true u will slightly go over the edge a bit more....untill..... eventually it for some reason just does not matter anymore. You will look at things around you such as friends, life, people much worse off than yourself. Then u will become slightly happy, then as each day passes your thoughts will change more on these things and less on her. You will feel liberated and very good. At that point u may decide the realship was something good to rember and move on, or never want to look back and move on, but whatever, you WILL move on. Not only that but you will move on happy, happy about all the new possiblitles that have opened up, you know, the ones you closed when u swore ur life to her. However right now ur at the start, its gonna be tough so surround yourself with friends and fight throu. Good luck, it will male you so much stronger in the end. :thumb:
The thing is much as i want him back i know even if he really were doing that I couldn't. My parents and family would go spare. They hate the guy. They think he's a no-hoper with no ambition, will always work as a manual labourer and that we're not suited. I'm so miserable, I didn't even see it coming which is amazing. Literally just a couple of hours before he was talking about that he just needed to get a bit more money and then he was going to buy his airticket to come to thailand with me in the next couple of days.