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Dead end relationship
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Im coming up to the 2 year mark with my boyfriend, for a while now I feel things haven't been the same - I rarely want sex, I'm a lot less patient with him, I've started letting my eyes wander (I wouldn't cheat though as I hate cheaters)
There's a guy at work who is totally amazing, he's a perfect gentleman, he's smart and gorgeous and when I see his id coming up on my phone I get butterflies. I think I'm falling for him and I don't know what to do :no: Only the other night I was fighting with my b/f over something as stupid as him not wanting to meet my friends for a half hour to go to a party...
We've already booked our holiday for the end of august, the guy at work I am beginning to fall for has made it quite clear he wouldn't go near me as long as I have a boyfriend...What to do, to stay together for together's sake? Give me and my b/f another chance or risk it and pursue a relationship with someone I know I'd have a great time with?
I think I just needed to rant or I was going to go kaboom!...anyone who bothers to reply, thank you very much
There's a guy at work who is totally amazing, he's a perfect gentleman, he's smart and gorgeous and when I see his id coming up on my phone I get butterflies. I think I'm falling for him and I don't know what to do :no: Only the other night I was fighting with my b/f over something as stupid as him not wanting to meet my friends for a half hour to go to a party...
We've already booked our holiday for the end of august, the guy at work I am beginning to fall for has made it quite clear he wouldn't go near me as long as I have a boyfriend...What to do, to stay together for together's sake? Give me and my b/f another chance or risk it and pursue a relationship with someone I know I'd have a great time with?
I think I just needed to rant or I was going to go kaboom!...anyone who bothers to reply, thank you very much
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Keep the faith.
Even in the beginning I never felt like this with my current b/f. The guy at work is alot closer my age as well. sigh
Same situation. Once I know what to do, I'll let you know. I mean, there's no girl waiting to go out with me, it just comes down to my friends. Yesterday I was so pissed off, I hadn't seen her since friday and texted her saying I missed her, and then she was a bit standoffish, then I said I was going cinema with my friends in the afternoon and she said "I don't get you" and I was confused, then she said she thought I was selfish etc.
So I felt bad all day, tried to get in contact with her after the cinema, coudln't, paniced, worried all evening to find out that she had gone cinema with her mate ed. (though if she's paranoid of me going out with 2 guys and a girl in the afternoon I should be paranoid of her going out with 1 guy in the evening).
Seriously couldn't be bohtered to carry it on last night, spoke to her, but she did some quick talking ending up in "i think we just need to spend time together" which wasn't what I was thinking. I don't know.
Anyway this doesn't really help you whatsoever. But please let me know what happens because our situations are quite similar.
I think its normal to see other people and occasionally think "what if?", but if it is more than the tiniest fleeting thought then there is something wrong. You probably don't even like this bloke that much, but you like the fact that he's not your boyfriend.
I suppose you basically need to sit down by yourself and think about what you want to do. And then talk about your decisions with your boyfriend and see how he feels and what you can do together to change it. Maybe he feels the same and maybe its time to call it a day, maybe it isn't, but you need to talk about it.
do you really love him, or are you just used to him?
sometimes relationships don't work out. it's no one's fault, it just happens. you have to figure out if this is what has happened to you, or if things have just gone a bit stale and can't be perked up.
ask yourself how you would feel if you and your bloke amicably agreed to part. would you be over the moon, a little sad, but relieved, or devastated. if it's the first or second option, it's probably time to move on.
the cruellest thing to do, in this situation, would be to let your current relationship drag on and on if your heart is not at all in it.
ShyBoy-I'll let you know what happens (if anything)