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why don't i like masturbation, but want to have sex?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
My Boyfriend and I have been dating for about 10 months and we have experimented with getting each other off, I don't like anything up there, I don't even like using condoms, but I get him off a lot, and he want's to pleasure me but I dont like it and he wants to experiment with me more before we have sex, I'd rather just have sex first.
What should we do?


  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey lin, and welcome 2 the site. I understand what you mean, but i cant help thinking that if you dont like his fingers up there, why would a penis be any different?

    Its hard to tell from your post, but has he tried giving you oral etc? coz thats totally different from fingering, and it might be a different way of him pleasuring you.

    I do think your b/f has a point though, and even if you want to have sex, theres loads of experimentation you can try together that you might enjoy more than the masturbation you've tried.

    Also, it might sound weird, but have you tried fingering yourself and rubbing your clit n stuff when you're on your own? coz it'll give you more idea of what you like and what feels good to you.

    Dont know if any of this advice is any use to you, but hope it helps xx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sounds like he's pressuring you a bit. don't do anything (especially sex!) if you're not 100% comfortable with it. if you do have sex, use a condom! that's SUPER important. no one *likes* to, but you absolutely have to.

    why don't you like him to pleasure you? is it because it doesn't feel good, or because you're embarassed, or something else? you should try to figure out why it's not working for you, and go from there. Salti is right in saying that if you don't like him to finger you, sex won't be any different.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    cos masturbation is shit. The only time it is any good is if a guy has a quick five finger shuffle before he goes on a night out.
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Mega Poster Posts: 2,822
    gt2masta. i was thinking of things to say to you but i dont think its worth the time it takes to think them and convey the messages to my fingers. just <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif"&gt;

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