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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
My bf wants to go all the way when I stay at his for xmas. Part of me wants to the other doesn't. Most the time I think, yeah I wanna do this but other days I have my doubts. Were both virgins. Both 17. Will have been going out 3 months by then. We have both discussed everything. I think it's my mate who's scaring me though coz she keeps saying that it really hurts and oh I dunno.

I know you can't make my mind up for me but I'd like to hear some opinions on it.

Sorry if this has been talked about b4.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i acnt really help u im afraid but i feel the same about this 1) i think im afraid of the pain
    2) worried about what my parents will think! even though i am almost 17
    i know i love him and apart from this i really wanna do it! but i dont want to bring the subject up so im waiting 4 the right time!

    but dont do it unless u feel 100% sure

    lots of love

    angel babe

    xxx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi

    If you don't feel that you are completely ready then don't do it! You need to feel as relaxed as possible in order for it all too feel as good as possible. If you are lying there thinking should I be doing this, am I ready then you will be tense and it will hurt. But if you are sure about doing it and you trust this guy then the experience will be much better because you will be really wanting it to happen. The earth is unlikely to move the first time but each time you do it after that it will get better and better. What you are thinking of doing will make you soo close to the guy so just be sure that he's the one you want to do it with. You first time is a big thing and you'll know when u are ready.

    Hope this helps you.

    'find a job you love and you'll never work a day in your life'
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    this is entirely up to u. do not let ure boyf pressure u in2 anythin u dont feel ready 4. if u dont feel ready 4 sex, then dont do it. i think u hav been 2gether long enuff 2 hav sex, but if u hav ne doubts at all, then tlk 2 ya boyf and xplain how u feel. if hes realy in love wiv u he wil respect ya wishes and understand how u feel. dont panic, just take it slow. love Bobbi. XX
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think that ure boy cares about. And therefore I think its right 2 have sex with him as ure old enough and mature enough 2 know what ure doing. Saying this unless ure totally sure dont do it cos ull regret it. But if u love him and care about him then there should be no reason why u wouldnt wanna do it. Also yeah it does hurt,alot! But if ure relaxed and ure in love the pain is not that bad at all!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i just wanna add a little, is doessnt ALWAYS hurt as i lost mine at 14(unfortunately) & it didnt hurt me, so we are all different. whenever you decide to do it, enjoy it! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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