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Another chance???
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So....
If your ex partner did something bad (i.e. cheating, lying, abuse) would you give him/her a second chance?
How many of you here has given ur ex partner a second chance? Why did you? Was it worth it? Has the relationship been successful?
And how many chances would you give until enough is enough?
Under what circumstances would you NOT give your partner a second chance?
Discuss.
If your ex partner did something bad (i.e. cheating, lying, abuse) would you give him/her a second chance?
How many of you here has given ur ex partner a second chance? Why did you? Was it worth it? Has the relationship been successful?
And how many chances would you give until enough is enough?
Under what circumstances would you NOT give your partner a second chance?
Discuss.
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Howevere i stayed in a very abusive relationship for nearly 2 years where my partner took everything from me and gave nothing back.I think i stayed in it because i beleievd that someday he would change and that we could be happy.
But now...i flinch at the first sign of this behaviour in partners and will run out the door faster than you can say "so i it take that its over".
GUess just because ive been hurt i dont believe in alot of comprimise.I dont treat people like shit and therefore dont expect to be treated like it.
Need to sort it out a bit as it tends to be a bit slef destructive on my part... :banghead:
I dont trust him, but I care about him loads.
but he did tell me if a bf ever hit me then he'd go find him and sort him out.....he doesnt stand for it because he was abused for many years as was my grandma. So if a guy abused me i dont think he'd even be able to be given a second chance. Like i'd give it to them anyway!
Things are all sorted now tho without him in my life and ive found alot of freedom
i carnt say that its been easy trusting him again and i dont think i will trust him 100%, but who can u trust 100%, thats my point, and things have been beter and he has changed, so have i, i think we both realised what we had and grew up!!
im not saying everyone deserves a 2nd chance, its just what ever u feel is best! but it CAN work again
I think more than two chances is enough for anyone, anymore than that and your with the wrong person.
in my experience, if they cheat, and you take them back. 9 times out of 10 they cheat again, but just get more sneaky about it. even if they never cheated again, i wouldn't be able to be with them knowing that they did that to me. even if we sorted it and got on with our lives, it'd always be in the back of my mind somewhere.
this is especially true if they did it more than once (with the same person, or different). once could possibly be a mistake. more than once is deliberate, and is NOT acceptable.
do you think it's worth it?
that's not a dig, btw. that's an honest question.
Now he realises what a fool he was, he wants me back. And although i do care for him, I cant go back to a relationship where the trust has been broken. It would do my head in...he'll go out and I would be like, "is he with another girl" etc.
I dont need that kind of stress. I know I wont be completely happy, I know I would always have a niggling thought in the back of my mind, and I know it will eventually drive me insane, even if he was truely being faithful and honest.
I can't imagine it working out if me and my ex got back together. And isn't it like always in the back of your mind? Don't you think he could do it again? (im not putting a bad mouth on ur relationship or anything).
we had a long chat and realised that we both loved eachother, he never used to open up to me, but he did and it made me realise that we had both been acting so stupid, ad that i was worth giving it one last go!
as for things beeing in the back of my mind, then oh yes that has been the biggest problem, and i still bring things up, almost every week infact! but its about us working togeather as a team, rather than working againsted eachother. i think u both have to be 100% committed to making it work.
im at the point now were i know that we will work through r problems.
and at the end of the day if it donsnt work out then atleast we have gave it an honest go! at the end of the day thee is no such thing as a prerfect relationship, and im not looking for one! im happy the way we r!! :thumb: