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Has anyone here ever left a course they loved because they just couldnt handle it.
Im seriously contemplating leaving my nursing course even though i love it, because I just am finding juggling running a house, looking after a child, and doing my course soooo difficult.
Its only 3 days a week which I can handle, but its the assignments and homework which I just cant seem to do. I havent done an essay since school, and im 28 now. Just the thought of it sends me into a panic, and Ive got so many other things to do, I usually end up doing those instead. Ive now got 4 weeks in which to do two 2000 word essays on subjects I really dont know that much about. I have the odd day here and there where im at home alone and `could` get on with it, but most times I have to look after my 4 year old, and my house is turning into a complete shit tip because i never have time to tidy it, or if I do, its at the expense of study time. I dont really get any help with this.
I really dont want to leave, but im constantly feeling stressed more than I ever have before. If I do leave, im going to feel like such a failure. I know if I leave, im going to have a huge weight lifted, but I dont want to just run away when the going gets tough and because im frightened of essays and have a messy house.
I keep crying. Ive cried on my placement twice in front of the ward manager because its so overwhelming. Everyone keeps telling me how essays arent really that hard, and in a way theyre right. I have the essay plan pretty much written out for me, but I just CANT seem to be able to even start it.
The way I see it, is its just going to get worse, and ive got 4 years of it.
I wish id stuck at school and done the university thing whilst living at home and having all my meals cooked and housework done and bills paid for me so I had nothing else to concentrate on but my studies.
This is really really hard.
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Im seriously contemplating leaving my nursing course even though i love it, because I just am finding juggling running a house, looking after a child, and doing my course soooo difficult.
Its only 3 days a week which I can handle, but its the assignments and homework which I just cant seem to do. I havent done an essay since school, and im 28 now. Just the thought of it sends me into a panic, and Ive got so many other things to do, I usually end up doing those instead. Ive now got 4 weeks in which to do two 2000 word essays on subjects I really dont know that much about. I have the odd day here and there where im at home alone and `could` get on with it, but most times I have to look after my 4 year old, and my house is turning into a complete shit tip because i never have time to tidy it, or if I do, its at the expense of study time. I dont really get any help with this.
I really dont want to leave, but im constantly feeling stressed more than I ever have before. If I do leave, im going to feel like such a failure. I know if I leave, im going to have a huge weight lifted, but I dont want to just run away when the going gets tough and because im frightened of essays and have a messy house.
I keep crying. Ive cried on my placement twice in front of the ward manager because its so overwhelming. Everyone keeps telling me how essays arent really that hard, and in a way theyre right. I have the essay plan pretty much written out for me, but I just CANT seem to be able to even start it.
The way I see it, is its just going to get worse, and ive got 4 years of it.
I wish id stuck at school and done the university thing whilst living at home and having all my meals cooked and housework done and bills paid for me so I had nothing else to concentrate on but my studies.
This is really really hard.
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also, think about why you chose your course in the first place... becasue it is something you really wanted to do, right?! may be the reason you can't start it is becasue you see it as overwhelming and you are scared of screwing it up?! - how about trying to write just a paragraph... a little at a time... getting it done that way - because i bet trying to sit down for 3 hours or so, straight trying to get it done is impossible with your commitment to your children.
also, remember there are lots of mature students at unis... and somehow they all find a way of managing to make it through... and you can too... there is no shame in asking for a little bit of help though.
2000 words won't take you long. you could sit down and do it in a day.
don't give up.
Can you teach your husband how to use a vacuum? I don't mean that flippantly, but is there any way you can give more of your burden to him?
I understand what you mean about panicking about essays, I think when things seem to build up high then it's perfectly normal and acceptable to panic. I had a nervous breakdown because of my dissertation, and I didn't have 64,000 other things to be doing either.
I don't think you should quit because the work is hard, but if your health is going to suffer because of the stress then you need to think long and hard about what you value more. Is the nursing qualification more or less important than a clean house and less stress?
To a certain extent I know how you feel, I had 2 5000 word essays to do a few weeks back and 2 exams, left it all to the last minute because the whole thing just seemed so big and scary I just couldn't face doing them.
I also have a weekend job, housemates who are seemingly incapable of doing any cleaning or thinking that we're running low on toilet rolls etc, and was having a bit of a family crisis at the time. Although I wasn't juggling as much as you and I don't pretend to, it was really stressful.
My advice is just break it all down, sounds like you have that all sorted with your essay plan, it's much easier to think in terms of 10 lots of 200 words rather than 2000. Plus it should be easier to fit them around your schedule as well.
I also have a booklet the uni here gave me when I started which I find quite useful on how to write essays. If you want a copy PM me and I'll scan it in and send it over to you.
Good luck with it all and don't give up - I seriously considered it as well as I hated my course then but since the essays have gone I feel so much more optimistic about my course.
do u have family or friends who could help u out with babysitting so u can have some time to yourself??even if its only a hour or so.
with the essays, since u have already got a plan, break it down even more so it will make it easier to write 2000 words and a small section shouldnt take too long.
if u quit u will regret it for ever!!! as said before, could u talk to ur tutors to try and work something out? i know at my uni there is a department for academic writing. they will help us structure an essay and read it over aswell do u have anything at ur uni?
does ur child go to nursery or a child minder?could they maybe look after him/her for a bit longer??
hope it all works out. try not to quit, u will regret it.
xx
good luck :thumb:
All the best and good luck,
Jon