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Hi
Usually i can sort out my problems with friends quite easily but this time the shi* really has hit the fan with my best friend. Basically over the last 6 months she's been getting very moody, very strong willed e.g if you don't share her opinion you're a twa* and she makes you look one by the end of it. She's been bollocking her boss, her stable customers, her friends but we've all stepped back and let her get away with it because she just causes the biggest tantrum if you don't that everyone decided to bury their heads in the sand. Now i don't know what has sparked off this arrogance (which is what it is) but i realise now we should have all stood up to her and not let her get away with half of the stuff she did.
The reason why it's come to a head is because of a small petty debate between us she sat slagging me off in the pub (where i was working behind the bar and in earshot) but has not been able to come to me and work it out like adults. I will not resort to slanging matches, fights etc. as i don't do scenes. She however will do so i just don't know how the hell to progress.
I would like to tell her how i'm feeling but know that the way she's being she will just laugh or shout and it will be a waste of time. No one else will stick by me as they just say oh leave her be, it's just her way :eek2:
But i don't see why i should give in to her temper tantrums just for an easy life as after 6 months of doing so it's obviously turning her into a monster. She's convinced herself that everyone respects her opinion, would like to hear it anyway and thinks she's the best thing since sliced bread and everyone is scared of her. :chin: The reality is everyones starting to avoid her when she starts in her belligerent mode.
Sorry rant over I'm just stuck as i don't even know if i want to make the friendship work as i don't like being made to look or feel the fool by a supposed friend.
Usually i can sort out my problems with friends quite easily but this time the shi* really has hit the fan with my best friend. Basically over the last 6 months she's been getting very moody, very strong willed e.g if you don't share her opinion you're a twa* and she makes you look one by the end of it. She's been bollocking her boss, her stable customers, her friends but we've all stepped back and let her get away with it because she just causes the biggest tantrum if you don't that everyone decided to bury their heads in the sand. Now i don't know what has sparked off this arrogance (which is what it is) but i realise now we should have all stood up to her and not let her get away with half of the stuff she did.
The reason why it's come to a head is because of a small petty debate between us she sat slagging me off in the pub (where i was working behind the bar and in earshot) but has not been able to come to me and work it out like adults. I will not resort to slanging matches, fights etc. as i don't do scenes. She however will do so i just don't know how the hell to progress.
I would like to tell her how i'm feeling but know that the way she's being she will just laugh or shout and it will be a waste of time. No one else will stick by me as they just say oh leave her be, it's just her way :eek2:
But i don't see why i should give in to her temper tantrums just for an easy life as after 6 months of doing so it's obviously turning her into a monster. She's convinced herself that everyone respects her opinion, would like to hear it anyway and thinks she's the best thing since sliced bread and everyone is scared of her. :chin: The reality is everyones starting to avoid her when she starts in her belligerent mode.
Sorry rant over I'm just stuck as i don't even know if i want to make the friendship work as i don't like being made to look or feel the fool by a supposed friend.
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Good Luck!
So i think i'm going to have to go this alone. But thank you
1. Tell her you want to talk to her, no where public though because if all hell brakes lose, she'll make a seen.
2. tell her before your about to spill the beans, that you want to talk like adults about this, and not overract.
3. Tell her calmy. If she overracts in anyway, then tell her your discussion is over, and you two can no longer be friends. Dear, you don't need someone like that in your life.
Well, that's all I got. hope I was of any use.