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I lost with my ex last night!
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So, I was sitting in the college bar by myself n my ex comes over n invites me to sit with her friends...she ignored me the whole time, her n her mates took over the pool table (even tho she knew I had a game down - by this time someone else I knew had come for a game), she flirted with someone right in my face and at the end she left off without inviting me to whereever she was goin (even tho I had done this a few nights previous). We have only be broken up for a week n a bit and I have tried my best to be friendly (she lives in the same halls so it is impossible to avoid her) but last night I confronted and asked if she wanted to be friends still...I was drunk so then I started screaming and shouting. Going back to my room, I knew I shouldnt have done that so I phoned her up and apoligised to her in town in person...she probably thought I was weird for walking 2 miles just to do that..
The problem is, is that I still feel really bad and weird...n I really dont know how to resolve it....does she really want to be friends with me? She has been taking the piss recently...for example a few nights ago, she was sending off all the signals that she liked me...well as more than a friend...she looked like she wanted to tell me something (I know every time) but she didnt. I really dont know how to act around her after this..
The problem is, is that I still feel really bad and weird...n I really dont know how to resolve it....does she really want to be friends with me? She has been taking the piss recently...for example a few nights ago, she was sending off all the signals that she liked me...well as more than a friend...she looked like she wanted to tell me something (I know every time) but she didnt. I really dont know how to act around her after this..
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So when she invites you to sit with her, say no... when she invites herself round say you're busy... what's the problem?
relationships do mess up your feelings a bit... but now its over... let it go... otherwise she'll keep treating you like this and messing with your emotions... which in the long run isn't going to do you any good!
Stop reading so much into things and spend time apart. Don't ask for advice, get it and then contradict everything we're saying, it makes people not want to give advice.
She's trying to help you, getting angry at her won't help any will it?!
If you want to get back with her then you should ask her if she feels the same (cos maybe it sounds like she might, with cuddling up to you and kissing) If you don't and you want to move on sit down and talk to her and tell her to stop fucking you around, you need to know where you stand...explain to her its hurting you the way she's acting
Maybe she does want to be friends, its hard to stop acting the same way around someone you have for so long and she doesn't realise its inappropriate
Break ups are always headfucking, don't get off with someone just to spite her...it will just distance her from you and stop any chances of sorting things out
I'm going to ignore your pathetic comments and put it down to you feeling very emotional right now.
That's a shocker.