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am so depressed. I hate myself. I have got the idea in my head that I am ugly, and fat (size 14) and that no man would ever sleep with me because I am fat. I would never let anyone see me naked!
I am a confident person, and I don't care what people think, it's what I think about myself. That's why my family don't understand what I mean, because I am so confident, about everything but myself. I am getting to the point where I like to hurt myself, Self Harm or whatever, not to watch myself bleed but to scar myself. It started off with scratches, then to 1/2 centimeter long deeper cuts, now they are an inch and really deep. And I pick them to make sure that they scar.
I have huge boobs (34F) that make me more self concious than I already am, because I know that guys aren't looking at my face and thinking "yeah she fit" or "shes a minger" they're thinking "jesus how big are her tits?" I get dirty old men staring at me in te street, anything from 30-60+ but people my own age, 17 aren't interested and don't even glance at my face. i think that if I don't get help soon I might hurt myself badly, I know i shouldn't but it feels like I cant control it. I don't understand
I am a confident person, and I don't care what people think, it's what I think about myself. That's why my family don't understand what I mean, because I am so confident, about everything but myself. I am getting to the point where I like to hurt myself, Self Harm or whatever, not to watch myself bleed but to scar myself. It started off with scratches, then to 1/2 centimeter long deeper cuts, now they are an inch and really deep. And I pick them to make sure that they scar.
I have huge boobs (34F) that make me more self concious than I already am, because I know that guys aren't looking at my face and thinking "yeah she fit" or "shes a minger" they're thinking "jesus how big are her tits?" I get dirty old men staring at me in te street, anything from 30-60+ but people my own age, 17 aren't interested and don't even glance at my face. i think that if I don't get help soon I might hurt myself badly, I know i shouldn't but it feels like I cant control it. I don't understand
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Give yourself some time out and find the interests that mean something to you. Focus on those, and allow yourself to get to know and understand who you are inside.
If you're continuing to hurt yourself I'd recommend seeing a doctor perhaps for a course of antidepressants. I read that 1 in 5 take them at some point in their lives so it's nothing to be ashamed of. I used to take them myself.
reading it in the original forum where i came across it confused me a little i think.
If I were to give you advice it might be this -
I would take a walk down the high street either today or tomorrow and check out all the "ugly" married people. Everyone is beautiful and desirable to someone.
Those "huge boobs" will be the source of joy for your lovers, will nurse your children and be the envy of other girls and women. You might have to put up wih the odd stare from "dirty old men" but if you think about it, it's a quick way to find out if someone is interested in you, or only interested in your body.
You already have a way to choose the good from the bad, do you really need another?
Take a look at some of these articles:
Low self esteem
Building self esteem
Distorted body image
I hope these help you take a more positive look at yourself.
Take care
Hannah Spanner
fuck what other people think of you... why should their opinions matter anyway?
you need to feel better IN yourself. try doing something that makes you feel good about yourself... and keep doing it, and you'll begin to like yourself.
other than that may be you could try and talk to your gp about getting some counselling or someone to talk to about your feelings... but at the end of the day; you really need to help yourself!
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Siz 14 is average isn't it?
It doesn't matter what size people are but, as has already been said, it's how they feel about themselves that counts. It's easy to lose focus when you're not happy about something and just let that problem take over your life. Sometimes we need someone else to talk to to help us focus on the wider issues.
I would suggest talking it over with a friend, or someone you trust ... however if you can't face that, then have a chat with your doctor or pm someone from the site whom you feel that you can confide in ... we're a friendly bunch!!
how tall are you? maybe you should try eating healthily it will make you feel better and if you lose weight along the way, im sure that would make you feel better too.
Also you could get some flattering clothes, often average sized women will wear stuff that is so unflattering that they end up looking fat when in fact they are not.
Also, get yourself a good fitting minimizing bra. If you flaunt your chest when out you cant blame people for looking. If you dont want them to look, dont show too much of it off (im not saying you do because i dont know)
so US 6 is UK 8.
On topic, I wear anything from an 8 to a 14, depending on where I buy it and what I'm buying. Most of the time I'm a twelve, 12-14 is the most average normal size in the UK. But the most important thing stephanie that "thin" does not mean healthy, and "fat" doesn't mean you're unhealthy or unattractive. It's not your weight that matters, I weigh a chunky 10 st 5lbs, but I can run 6km do 120 sit ups and 40/50 pressups without and significant trouble. The best thing I can suggest for you is that if you're unhappy about your shape, then change it with a healthy attitude to excercise and a balanced diet.
Excercise will tone your shape and make you feel better about yourself just because you're doing it, and eating the things you're supposed to will also improve your outlook. Stop worrying about your weight though, muscle size for size weighs 40% more than fat.