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Pain While Fingering a Girl?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
While stimlulating my gf after about 1-2 min she complains of a 'pain' in her stomach. She discribes it as her muscles contracting, but it hurts after a few moments. Sometime she says it hurts like she has to pee or cramps... Any suggestions? Whats going on? Is this 'pain' perhaps something normal that she hasnt experienced? I just want to give her a little pleasure in return every now and then.

She has never done anything herself, nor has anyone else tried. Just me, so it is new to her.

Thx

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sorry I cant help you, so Ill just say what it looks like this topic means.
    When I saw the title I thought, how can anyone get pain when fingering a girl? what is it, finger cramps?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Whowhere:
    <STRONG>Sorry I cant help you, so Ill just say what it looks like this topic means.
    When I saw the title I thought, how can anyone get pain when fingering a girl? what is it, finger cramps?

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0"></STRONG>
    hey, me too!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeas so did i actually.

    dunno what it could be though. maybe u just have REALLY long fingers...........sorry thats not funny *LOL* <IMG alt="image" SRC="tongue.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have a solution, cut your fingernails! <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by *Groovaybaby*:
    <STRONG>Aw guys give him a break. Why don't you try other stuff? It could be she's extremely nervous which could lead to her body not being relax,
    GB
    hey dont laugh guys you try to be helpful on how much alcohol ive had!!!</STRONG>


    Maybe it's the dirt underneath the fingernails? Could be causing a rash down there <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by *Groovaybaby*:
    <STRONG>Aw Whowhere stop being mean to the Newbie! This one didnt knick anythink remember. oh yeah WhoWhere heres your New year Kiss from the babe!!!
    GB
    <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0"></STRONG>

    Aww, thanx sexy, I'll stop being cynical now.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ack, leave the poor newbie alone ya big bullies <IMG alt="image" SRC="tongue.gif" border="0">

    It could be that she isnt aroused enough before you insert your finger. Make sure shes wet 'downstairs', and also wet your fingers with your mouth. Dont just dive straight in with a whole fist, take things gently and it might stop hurting her.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sandpaper always gets me in the mood <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey triplej!
    Sorry bout not gettin much response from ur question, but most of the ppl on here wud rather take the piss outta us instead of tryin to help.Point of them being on this??who knows! <IMG alt="image" SRC="confused.gif" border="0">
    Anyway i reckon ur girlfs probably really nervous and tensing the muscles.Thats why its hurting.U will just have to try n make her feel as ralaxed as possible.It shud get easier wiv time.
    Hope it sorts itself out!
    Luv Vanilla xxx <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i got that once when a lad was fingering me, and i was relaxed, so it couldnt b that i was too tense....o well, it could be one of those un-answerable questions.... :P
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    U say she's new to all things sexual, so she's probably nervous = tense.
    Just take things slowly, make sure she's warmed up and relaxed b4 u do anything. And be gentle, remember your trying to give her pleasure, - not looking for a set of keys or whatever u blokes seem to think u'll find up there!!
    If it hurts, stop try something else - like oral - the tounge is gentler than fingers and its already wet - always helps!!
    And if it still hurts after practice maybe she should see a doctor.
    Happy hunting!! xx <IMG alt="image" SRC="wink.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think someone had said this before but it is that fact that she is probably not excited enough at first, you need to arouse her not go straight in for the kill. just kiss and rub and when she's getting into it go for it. good luck

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    are you sure your getting the right whole?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ok ill help u with this one...if she is gettin pretty sore down there..then the tummy contractions will be a kinda oooh that hurts but it mite be nice in a mo...type msg to her brain..so just lick ur finger and carry on if its not hurtin too much!

    but if not and its nice and sloppy down there well this is the start of her path to heaven...its just a different muscle...instead of her legs that are respondin too ur oh so nice touchin..let her just take a big breath out and or god sake carry on she;ll get loads more of em b4 bamn she is on top of the world!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i got that 2 wen my (ex) b/f fingered me, but not all the time, but it was like when u really need the toilet but rite at the bottom of my stomach, sometimes i found if i layed out flat on my back it went away or if my b/f kissed me at the same time kinda 2 keep me turned on.

    hope this helps <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    less penetration, go slower, more lub. Also if she is a virgin than you are probably irritating the membrane that hasn't been torn yet. So instead of a lot of pain at once (popping the cherry) you are just pokeing at it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by triplej:
    <STRONG>While stimlulating my gf after about 1-2 min she complains of a 'pain' in her stomach. She discribes it as her muscles contracting, but it hurts after a few moments. Sometime she says it hurts like she has to pee or cramps... Any suggestions? Whats going on? Is this 'pain' perhaps something normal that she hasnt experienced? I just want to give her a little pleasure in return every now and then.

    She has never done anything herself, nor has anyone else tried. Just me, so it is new to her.

    Thx</STRONG>

    maybe she actually needed to piss. thats not a joke. or she might have had indigestion. or she might go very weird wen aroused. but if it is ur fingers causing her pain then try going down on her, its a lot of fun oh btw im male (not female)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Perhaps you need to use a spot of lubrcation, like KY jelly (in most big stores in a tube with the medicines section, in a box like toothpaste).
    Or perhaps you are tugging at her hymen, that can be painful (I`m crossing my legs)!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Perhaps you need to use a spot of lubrcation, like KY jelly (in most big stores in a tube with the medicines section, in a box like toothpaste).
    Or perhaps you are tugging at her hymen, that can be painful (I`m crossing my legs)!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Dont try reaching all the way in. just push the very tip of ur middle finger in and rest ur ring finger on her clit then just twitch ur fingers towards u so u can ease ur finger in slowly. The only other thing is u might get cramp in ur finger after a while

    [ 17-01-2002: Message edited by: king of the k0p ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sorry bout that last 1 got the names of fingers mixed up
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    when you and her are startin to get off then make her really wet or even wet ur fingers I found that it really helps but I dont know what could be causin stomach pains maybe ur goin to hard and not giving her time to get wet... well hope I helped! <IMG alt="image" SRC="confused.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="confused.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    does it hurt her during sex? If it does, get her to go to her GP. Chances are there's nothing wrong but nervousness or not enough arousal. But.... it may be an STI such as chlamydia so it's better to be safe than sorry!!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Some facts that might be of help to you and your girl:

    http://www.thesite.org/info/sex/

    However, as already pointed out, you may need to get professional advice; some helplines that provide confidential services can be found here: http://www.thesite.org/info/helplines/ .

    I'm sure between yourself, your girl and perhaps with some professional advice, (if needed), you'll be able to work this out.

    Take Care. <IMG alt="image" SRC="cool.gif" border="0">
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