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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I have just recently started a new relationship.... and i was wondering how normal is it for sex to always be really rough? My boyfriend likes to choke me, at 1st i was kinda scared but now i like it a lot. we always joke around about raping each other... in my past relationships it was never like this. Even though i have to come to find out i like recieving pain... its very common for guys to like to give it?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Choke you as in throttle you around the neck? Oxygen deprivation is supposed to be very erotic BUT can be very dangerous. Be careful.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    if you aren't comfortable with anything then dont do it.
    for some people its normal to be rough , others it isnt. personally it would frighten me - but if you are comfortable with it then fine. talk to your boyfriend about it during a non-sexual time if you are worried about it going too far and establish a non-sexual code word to use if either of you aren't comfortable...in that sort of situation a simple "no" or "stop" can be turned into part of the rough stuff and not listened to.

    has he been abused or anything in the past??
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Rough aint my bag but if you both consent then its fine some of the time I guess. If he only wants it like that I would be a little worried that your BF's head is quite right and he may have a few issues.

    If you are not comfortable then don't do it, sex is a shared pleasure not just a chore for you to do to keep your bloke happy. Don't put up with something you don't like, lifes to short, tell him to sort it out or dump him.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    TheCure wrote:
    Don't put up with something you don't like, lifes to short, tell him to sort it out or dump him.
    I'm sure she said she liked it :confused:

    My GF likes it pretty rough but not over the top rough and I like giving it to her, I think its sexy. I reckon a lot of guys would love to give it rough and a lot would not either. Same as everything I suppose, it depends on the person.
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