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Why cant I get out of my head that my fella will cheat on me??? He's started goin to the gym about a month ago, and whenever he goes I just think he's gonna go off with some girl who is skinnier, prettier than me, makes him more happy than I do When he looks at girls in the street (I know he just looks, I look at men ect) and when he has them mags, loaded n stuff, I think, I wish I was slimmer, so then I think Im goin on a diet so I can be slimmer, but then I think I dont really want to be slimmer, Im happy and I think he's happy with my body.
I am a jealous person cos my ex cheated on me, and my ex started goin to a gym, and met her there and left me :impissed: So I just keep thinking is it happening over again?? :nervous:
Im just fed up :grump: We keep arguening, over silly things, we dont trust each other, and I know trust is the most important thing in a relationship, but we love each other. I've thought about a little 'break' cos I think we take each other for granted, weve been together ages, and if we have a little break it might do us some good :chin: but then again he could find someone and go off!! Uhhh, I dont know, im just fed up and fustrated :grump:
Sorry for the rant!!! If anyone has anythin to say, then there welcome!!!
Thnaks!
I am a jealous person cos my ex cheated on me, and my ex started goin to a gym, and met her there and left me :impissed: So I just keep thinking is it happening over again?? :nervous:
Im just fed up :grump: We keep arguening, over silly things, we dont trust each other, and I know trust is the most important thing in a relationship, but we love each other. I've thought about a little 'break' cos I think we take each other for granted, weve been together ages, and if we have a little break it might do us some good :chin: but then again he could find someone and go off!! Uhhh, I dont know, im just fed up and fustrated :grump:
Sorry for the rant!!! If anyone has anythin to say, then there welcome!!!
Thnaks!
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He tried to be understanding, he would always invite me out with him everywhere even when there wasnt really any reason for me to go (as in i wouldnt know anyone else at the party) and i know it was because he wanted me with him but it was also largely because he was trying to reassure me nothing would ever happen. He even started not going out when he knew the other girls would be there, but this was my problem not his and it tore us apart.
Doing everything together actually made it worse, we never went out on a night out without each other and when we did, when either of us actually wanted to we felt guilty and the other one worried. I made him insecure and jealous too.
I thought that we loved each other and that would overcome everything but in the end we wore each other down, no trust is a really hard thing to deal with.
We broke up a month ago because he needed some space, and we both really needed to discover who we were. And theres not a day that goes by when i hate myself for not being able to trust him and put my stupid worries to one side.
He never cheated on me once.
Please, please try and sort your head out before its too late, i may have ruined the best relationship i'd ever had because i couldnt get over my own insecurities, id hate it if the same thing happened to you.
You sound so much like me!! Im jealous of his ex's cos he still sees one (at work) and the thing about going out, if I go out on a night out with work, I keep thinking he's cheating on me while I'm out cos he thinks im cheating on him, so the last time works had a night out, I didnt go :grump: Im just really fed up, I get angry at my self for feeling like that, but I cant do nothing about it!!! :banghead:
Is there nothing you can do about your relationship??
Fallinlove - I've been to the gym, but when he goes Im at work, and his gym is in his work kinda thing. I know a break wont do nothing, but I just think we take each other for granted, but a break isint the answer to all this mess, I am! Well.... we are :rolleyes:
ETA: Just to say thanks soooo much to both on ya! xxxxx
No, I dont think so, I think he will always think of me as the girl he had to reassure and was too paranoid...which makes me sad, but i cant change the past only the future and make sure i do change and learn to feel better about myself.
The thing is, it just aint me with teh trust issues, its him aswell!!!! Its not like I dont trust him all the while, its just something can trigger it off..... like goin to the gym!!! :impissed:
Secondsophie- you know what they say, you learn by your mistakes