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Parents know too much
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At first me and my girlfriend were fine to be up in my room on my own..that was until she stayed in my room without my parents knowledge (we had come in from a night out on a split decision and had had a fair few drinks lol)..and my mum found like condom 'evidence' (dont worry nothing that bad!) next to the bed later that next day. I mean they hardly know my girlfriend and its sort of made them not want to as much...which is a shame. They know shes a really nice girl...but its just difficult because now its hard for us to have sex or sleep together without feeling a bit guilty....we are both 18 but I guess its not our house! Any advice? xx
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My ex used to stay over all the time, when i was about your age, on the condition that he slept in the spare room. We used to sneak into eachothers rooms though for sex. One night he thought it would be nice if he sneaked into my room just to fall asleep together. It was that night my parents discoverd us!! We got into so much trouble and we hadn't even had sex (on that occasion). My sympathies to you. Whenever you can afford to move out!! I'd love to get a place with my fiancee, but i'm still studying f/t at uni, so i can't afford to. As soon as i can though i will.
Perhaps spend more time with them when your g.f is at yours? maybe watch a film together?? That way they can get to know her, and you'll both earn their trust and respect!
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That was until last week when suddenly it was all fine. I meant an awful lot to me as my parents obviously trust us both and approve of our relationship being physical. At first I did pester them a little about allowing him to stay in my room but I gave up and shut up and it seems to have done the trick.
I suggest that you apollogise to your parents, they'll probably appreciate it. Explain that if your girlfriend stays again it wont happen without their permission as you understand that it is their house and that you must go by the house rules. You could also however remind them that you are 18 and of legal age. Just mention it the once and they might come round to the idea.
Well if you are 18 i don't see any problem...