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Porno problems?

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Former Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

March 2005 in Sex & Relationships

Hey just wanting some advice. Me and my girlfriend started having sex recently. We havnt been going out for long but felt we were both ready. Sex is great between us and we have a lot of fun but I find it very hard to cum and most of the time I dont. Condoms dont help and she may be going on the pill soon, although I dont want to force her etc. But I think im becoming too reliant on porn to orgasm when masturbating and its having an effect when im with her...I have a beautiful girl on my bed and cant seem to orgasm, and yet I can cum in minutes when watching some screen. I also tend to tense my legs in order to cum quicker..which cant be good guess... Anyway any advice at all is welcome..besdies stop watching it...which ive done already!

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Former Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

March 2005

They're not the same, I don't know why one would influence the other. I think you just need to practice more together.

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Former Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

March 2005

Thinking about it too much, relax, dont put so much pressure on yourself.
Just enjoy the fact that you have a got a gorgeous girl in your bed
u can watch porn when shes not there!
and she prob isnt that bothered if you take a while, generally the longer u last the betta

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Former Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

March 2005

why dont you get her to do some kinky stuff for you like materbate her self n mayb that'l turn you on n u myt cum quicker.
personally i like ma man 2 cum afta ages not in like minutes..
talk 2 her about it if its bothering ya,. :thumb:

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Former Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

March 2005

fckin gd idea that. ^^

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Former Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

March 2005

Hey,

I used to have this problem before i was sexually active mate, basically i think that blokes get so used to masturbating and getting the horn in a certain way that having sex is completely different. In time you will cum through sex, dnt put pressure on yourself. A good position that worked for me was the spoons position as u really get to hit your sweet spot. To be honest mate i wouldnt complain, it means you can go on for quite a while and i doubt that your girl will be unhappy with that.

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Former Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

March 2005

cheers

thanks guys, you helped a lot xx

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Former Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

March 2005

Yeah honestly when I first started doing stuff with my gf aka her giving me head. I could never cum and I was so pissed off by it because I just couldnt and I thought something was wrong with me. We did it a bunch of times to probably 5 or 6 times and I just didnt come it was frustraighting. I think its a pyschology thing because I was just afraid to cum in her mouth or something I'm not sure. Anywho one day we got to it again and she just kept doing it and I concentraited hard on cumming and I finally did after like 15-20 minutes. Now I cum in like 5 minutes or so, so it's all good man its just a phase you'll get over it.

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Former Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

March 2005

MattLiverpool wrote:

I have exactly the same problem only im actually losing my hardon at times aswell, I don't understand it, could be medical or psychological, I need to go back the clinic and ask.

Is it kiddie porn Matt?

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Former Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

March 2005

mattliverpool, i have that problem as well, it gets less as you get more comfortable though...its purely psych, just get more comofrtable with sex and each other and u wont lose it. As to cuming I guess thats just pysch as well...so we just gota relax and wait xx

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Former Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

March 2005

dont look at porn

seriously its a major problem for some people these days as porn interupts arousal spells and its fake so the real stuff doesnt seem real

just cut down on the porn dude

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Former Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

March 2005

btw if its the band in your name, i love them to bits . Wembly was awesome...maybe not as good as the times at Brixton but still!.

If its just the fake pill your on about then ignore me

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