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Experimenting, HELP!
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As I said in a previous post, i recently discovered that i'm bisexual. I also have a friend (male) who discovered the same. I'd like to try experimenting w/ him, but i don't know how to bring it up. It does seem like he wants to as well, but i'm not sure. Anyone who is bisexual or homosexual, can you give me advice, maybe even mention on how you're first time fooling around w/ someone of the same sex went. I just need some advice.
And if anyone decides that this is extremely disgusting and wants to make some stupid comment about this, i don't want to hear it. Keep your opinions to yourself, i just want advice here. And to all of you who are here to help and give advice. Thanks!!
Blessed Be
And if anyone decides that this is extremely disgusting and wants to make some stupid comment about this, i don't want to hear it. Keep your opinions to yourself, i just want advice here. And to all of you who are here to help and give advice. Thanks!!
Blessed Be
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Look into these tired eyes. See something you might recognise.
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Blessed Be
Its a tricky one, just say to him about your feelings, tell him you'd like to kiss him or perhaps just go out clubbing and something may progress from there... I don't think theres really a straight and logical way of doing it, its just something you either talk about (then do) or start doing..
Few experiences I can think back on where:
a) Club - Can I kiss you (said to me) - Done! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
b) Bedroom - Just being close and then *cough* things just sorta progressed <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
Just explain to him your feelings and take it from there... good luck!
I'd hint. Just say "you know, I'm really curious to explore this side of me but I don't want to get it on with a total stranger... know what I mean?" And see what he says. You could even say "I know you're going through the same thing I am, what do you think about it?"
... I know guys are less apt to talk about things like this. Honestly, though, I think it's the best thing to do.
Either that or flirt like hell and hope some sparks fly
=] good luck!
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Look into these tired eyes. See something you might recognise.
i could say a few things about the phone.. but im just not going to.
and turtle, she's blonde if that counts.
approaching someone of the same sex is difficult for the first time and especially when your not sure if they have feelings for you too.
meeting gay/bi people is a lot different than meeting straight people, ie; my mates bf has a mate called neil, i fancied the arse off him when i met him and flirted with him loads, i knew he was straight and it didnt matter.........
i dont go broadcastin to the whole world that im bi so when i meet new people i dont know its not something i just come out and say, and people wouldnt guess by looking at me, so if neil was a girl say i wouldnt have flirted with her because she could have been just like me.......
a girl who likes women but not so's youd know.
So even when you do like someone theres the whole thing about are they gay?
I think i might b goin off topic here a bit anyway most of the females ive met have been in the gay village and theyve blatantly been gay and ive just been how i am with lads down there.
Ermmmmm ok im rambling i think?
*finito*
This happened to me about six months ago. I really, really liked this guy called Ollie (and had done for ages). I didn't really know him that well at first but we got chatting and got pretty close as friends. Then a couple of weeks later, somehow it came out(no pun intended) that he was bi, and he hadn't realised that I was gay. I really wanted to tell him how I felt right then, but for some reason I decided not to. I think it was probably the fact that he already had a girlfriend. Anyway the next time I saw him we were having a bit of a chat and I just told him. He was a bit shocked at first and just went "but i've got a girlfriend." But then he said they'd spilt up the night before and I got dead excited, but nothing else was said. We didn't see each other for a week or two, and when I saw him next he'd got back with his ex. Bastard. Anyway, I felt(and still do sometimes) unbelievably awkward around him for a while afterwards, but we've started to get back to the friendship that we had.
This probably isn't gonna help you Talimur, but you asked for peoples experiences. Mine just happened to be a bad one.
I flirt with straight guys all the time when i'm out and none of them even seem to notice. Even when i'm being dead obvious.
I'm hearing that. The club I go out to regularly isn't gay, so i always really want to tell people that I fancy them, but i'm scared of the reaction. I always think i'll just get battered for being a poof, so I normally just stare at them from afar.
All my life what I had mistaken for friendly pats on the back were really the hands that pushed me further and further down.
I haven't talked to him yet, but when I do, I'll let you all know how it went, that is, if you do want to know... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif">
Cya all l8r <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
Tal
Blessed Be
I hope you have better luck than I had.
All my life what I had mistaken for friendly pats on the back were really the hands that pushed me further and further down.
I so happy!!
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Thanks all,
Tal
Blessed Be
Hope you have fun, just remeber to be careful.
All my life what I had mistaken for friendly pats on the back were really the hands that pushed me further and further down.
Blessed Be
If he feels the same way as you then that's really, really great, but you should ask him about his feeling, they may be different to yours.
I hope it works out for you.
All my life what I had mistaken for friendly pats on the back were really the hands that pushed me further and further down.
I agree with jeffrey ... just 'cos he wants to experiment with you doesn't mean he wants anything more than that. Don't read any more into it other than experimental, stress-relieving sex or you may hurt yourself more than you need to.
Take care and good luck! *hugs*
as always, i think the best advice is to always be upfront about everything.
i wouldn't talk about 'feelings' quite yet, be absolutely sure about how you feel before you talk to him, you may freak him out a little!